My 11 year old step son is tearing our family apart. He has been diagnosed with a number of ADD ADHD BiPolar etc, sees a psychologist and a counselor. He was adopted at birth, Mom cowers to his every need, I am fed up with disrespect, back talk, refusal to do anything to help around the house. Mom again gives in to his every wish, says she feels sorry for him. He is 11, at what point do you say enough is enough and make him accountable for his actions as well as words? He is ruining our marriage.