I was married to my ex-husband for 21 years. I had asked a priest for guidance concerning our marital situation. He said, "You won't hear this from a priest too often, but you need to divorce this man". I followed my ex-husband (husband at the time) through out his 20+ years in the military. He was controlling and abusive. My divorce was over 11 years ago. Since then, both my ex and I have remarried.
The problem is my daughter. She will be getting married later this year. She is 27yrs old. She is planning on having her wedding at her father's house. (I have no issues with that, it's what she wants)
She has requested that I not bring my current husband. I have been married to him for 10 years. This man is the love of my life and supports any decision I make.
My daughter is not inviting any of my side of the family. I would be at the wedding alone.
My ex's family is quite large. I haven't seen them since I divorced my ex. Of course to his family, I was the reason for the divorce.
I feel like I would be walking into an ambush by going alone. None of my family, none of my friends at the wedding. I would be isolated. (Which is the way her father treated me during our marriage).
My daughter resents me for divoricing her father.
I DO realise that it is HER day.
I have been there for my daughter. Helped her in anyway I could. Always trying to make up to her for her feelings of resentment.
This time, I really don't know what do do. Our relationship isn't close because she wishes it that way. I don't want added resentment toward me for not going to her wedding. I also don't want to be a target for her resentment or any humilation and embarassment.
There is also the reception. The dances. Do I sit at a table alone, keep my mouth shut and watch???
Please let me know what you think....
Thank you in advance.