How many families with stepchildren blend the ex-wives/husbands into the holiday celebrations? Does it just depend on the family in most cases?
Before my husband and I were married, his ex-wife always came to immediate family holiday get-togethers like Christmas, Thanksgiving or his son's birthday parties even though they had been separated or divorced for a few years.
Now that we are married, is it wrong of me to ask that she not be at the Christmas/Thanksgiving gatherings anymore (which are at our home)?
Planning this year's birthday party for his son has been a fiasco because his ex wouldn't communicate with him for whatever reason so it turned out we scheduled the party on a day she cannot get off work. She's very mad about this and the fact that we have not planned the party the way she wants it done and has chewed my husband out about it more than once in the last week. She is not helping pay for this party in any way and it is hosted at our home (this was her request a long time ago). Is it right of me to ask in the future that if she wants him to have a birthday party on her terms, she can plan it and throw it but we'll do something else with him for his birthday?
thanks for your advice.