Hello everyone. I'm totally new to this message board thing so please be patient with me. I am a 26 yr. old stay at home mom. I have a 6 yr old son and a 10 yr old step-son that we have custody of for the last 3 yrs. For the most part, my stepson is a good boy. My problem is with my husbands family recently. I know my stepson has some issues with stuff his mom has done (shes been married 2 other times and has 3 other kids that are much younger than my stepson). He doesn't really talk to me about his feelings, but i know he will talk to my in-laws. That's okay with me, but a few weeks ago the in-laws asked him if he thought I loved him as much as i love my son! This opened up a huge arguement when my husband and i found out about this! During this arguement, i was told that I am always cruel to my stepson and never have a kind word to say to him! Do these people not know how hard it is to raise someone elses son?!? I am hard on my stepson when it comes to his school work and even his everyday personal hygiene, so of course i look like the bad guy to him. I still doesn't excuse what they said about me. I don't think I play favorites, but i don't always know how to get across to my stepson. He still idolizes his mom, which is okay. it just frustrates me that he doesn't see what i am doing. I know, is it too much to expect from a 10 yr old? Has anyone else had these issues with the in-laws? Please share any ideas or advice. thanks for listening.