My little boy is 8 years old. His father has never been in his life. I am seriously dating a man who I have allowed to be in my boy's life.
My bf is an honorable, successful and good hearted man. He has taught me a great deal about boy relationships and really contributed in a positive way in my son's life.
However, my bf sometimes has certain issues with the way I tend to my son. He thinks it is unreasonable for me to clean my boy's ears out with a q-tip, stating he should learn to do that himself. He encourages my son's independence and it has been good for my son, but I sometimes feel he does not understand that an 8 year old is too young to be COMPLETELY independent.
Overall, my bf and my son have a fantastic friendship and my son is not aware of any problems (he's happy and loves my bf and looks up to him)... But I am troubled on some level ...
One other incedent that has me bothered is that my bf found a little action figure all chewed up. I saw the toy laying on his dresser and I asked if his dog had chewed up the toy. He explained that he thought my son chewed up the toy. I wondered how he could be so ignorant. In his defense, my son does "maim" his toy soldiers by removing arms and legs. This toy however was a larger hard plastic toy that would have taken him hours to chew up. I never for one second thought my kid chewed up the toy. I am insulted that my bf did not just believe us when my kid has never given us any reason to think he is dishonest.
Should I overlook these things? Truley we all have such a relaxed and enjoyable relationship that I feel pretty lucky. But lately I am offended by my bf's observations and comments.