I am a 24 yr old single mother of a beautiful 2 yr old boy. His father and I were never married and we have been seperated for my son's entire life.
My ex took it very hard when I left him, even though it was ultimately his fault. He was never home, when he was home he was drunk. He didnt really have anything to do with our son until he was old enough to "play". Since my son is in the "fun" toddler stage my ex wants to spend more time with him, which is completely fine with me. Especially considering that it is difficult studying for finals with a toddler.
I am positive that he treats our son very well. My son absolutly adores him and misses him when he is not around.
Here is my problem......He was abusive towards me during our relationship, after the break-up, and even now. If I do not completely comply with his requests he threatens me and my family. In the past two years he has: broken into my apartment twice, destroyed my livingroom furniture with a knife after holding it to me, put sugar in my gas tank, shattered the windshield of my car, stolen and broken two different cell phones, has made it impossible for me to have any relationship with a member of the opposite sex, stolen clothes, stolen at least eight pairs of shoes, and threatened my life.
But between these out bursts he is very caring and giving to our son.
Two days ago, he had another out burst because I wanted to keep the baby for the weekend. He now says that he is going to continue to ruin my life if I don't allow him to get our son. I have involved the authorities on multiple occaisions. I cannot prove that he is the one that is causing all the damage. They won't do anything and he is aware of it. I dont know what to do. Please help.....