This will be my first year separated and I thought my ex and I could work things out without too many problems. What do you do when the ex can provide extravagant gifts but doesn't seem to want to hand over enough money to just buy groceries each week. I don't have money for gifts at all but now the boys (12 and 9) will each get gifts. I am going to have to go to court just to get any kind of legal protection at all. My husband still seems to think we can do things without court as long as he has full control. He has even threatened to put the house for sale to make ends meet. We have not place to go right now. I am between a rock and a hard place as an unemployed, stay-at-home mom and jobs aren't just dropping into anyone's laps around here.