When we were married my husband, children and I always spent Christmas Eve with my parents. We'd go to his parents Christmas Day and arrive at about noon. We've been divorced 3 years and we continued this tradition. Now he wants the kids to wake up at his house Christmas morning. I think that would be fair every other year but not every year. I also think that whoever doesn't have them Christmas should have them Thanksgiving. He just gave me a calendar that shows him having them Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas. I would get them back the 28th of December, he would have them the rest of Christmas vacation. His family alternates Thanksgiving and Christmas. They spend one with his parents and the other with their in-laws. This year is Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with in-laws. I want to be fair and I have been very accomidating but I don't want to let him run all over me either. Please give me some thoughts about what you think is fair and how you divide the holidays.