older kids vs. babies - FamilyEducation
older kids vs. babies
09/16/2007 at 09:04 AM

I have an 11 mo. son and a 2.5 yo. son with my husband. We also have my 12 yo. stepdaughter living with us since September of last year.

She loves my 11-mo. son and always plays with him, pushes him in the stroller,wants to help feed him or change his clothes, etc but is so mean to our 2.5 yo. She doesn't want him in her room or touching her stuff or watching cartoons. Typical things that all little boys do to torment their big sisters. It is getting to the point that I get scared to leave him and her in the same room and go into another room unless my husband is present.

If anybody knows anyway to foster them together please help.

Hey momtomy2boys,


Welcome to the boards.  I am wondering why she would be so sweet to one child and not appear to like the other one.  What do you think the reason might be?  Have you or the girl's father ignored her for the 2 1/2 year old---do you expect her to always take the torment or do you make it clear that she doesn't have to be tormented just because she has a little brother?


Have you talked to her about her feelings about this?  I would say your first step is to talk to her and try to get to the bottom of the situation.


What does everyone else think?