Wetting Pants at School
08/26/2007 at 21:25 PM

Hi there

I am needing some advice my 9 yr old daughter wet her pants at school a month or so ago, she hasnt had an accident since she was 5 years old and she doesnt wet the bed. The teacher rang me and asked me to come down to the school, she explained that my daughter had asked to do to the bathroom and she had said yes straight away when she didnt return after 5mins she sent another girl to go check on her and of course the girl came running back in yelling shes wet her pants, much to my daughters embarrasement. I asked my daughter what happened and she just said she couldnt hold on. I thought she is a bit old for this and should be able to control it but let it go. Since this issue she has started wetting her bed and had wet her pants 1 other time when at ballet. (this time she wasnt allowed to go to the toilet straight away but only had to wait 5 mins). I have had her to the doc twice and eliminated urinary tract infect and we have had no big events or up heavals, does any one else have a child who has had an accident at school... how did you deal with it??? Thanks

Hey nzermum,

 

I am sorry to hear that your daughter is having these embarassing accidents.  We have not experienced this here but this summer we took a group of kids to Europe and we did have one girl who had an accident when she was forced to hold it too long.

 

What does her doctor say besides that there is no urinary tract infection?  Does the doctor have any idea why this would be happening now? 

 

Perhaps she is waiting too long to ask to go to the bathroom or not realizing it soon enough.  Also, have you talked to her about whether or not anything has happened that is making this happen?

 

Anyone else have any ideas or experience with this?

 

Marti

 

http://www.familyeducation.com/home/

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We are having the exact same problem with our 8 yr old girl.  It has happened at school a couple of times, but she insists that she accidentally "sat in some water".  I wish we could help, but we will follow the comments and hopefully someone will be able to shed some light on this.  Our daughter is so into looking nice and loves to dress up pretty.  She has gone thru some trying times which could have something to do with it.......  Good luck.

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It sounds like the first time it happened at school was just purely an accident which we can all have, even adults. She probably held it in too long before asking to be excused. Because it was handled so badly at school with that other child making it very embarrasing for your daughter, she is now very nervous about it happening again, which of course won't help at all and now it is happening more. Maybe you just need to sit down and talk to her and get her opinions on what is happening and see if you can work it out. Maybe she just needs some reassurance. Could the other children at school be giving her a hard time about her 'accident'.

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Hi marti

Thanks for your reply, how old was the child that had the accident while with you? and how long where they made to wait... was there no toilet near or didnt they ask?

How did you handle it and was the child upset

Thanks :)

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Hi All

 

Sorry havent been on in a while it has been very hetic time, I have had my daughter to a bladder specialist and she has undergone some test etc - the doc seems to think as she is starting puberty and growing so fast her bladder hasnt caught up and is experincing some weakness.  She has grown a huge 17cm this year!!

She has had a couple more accidents but she is dealing with them alot better now. She was at a friends and woke up in the night busting to go to the loo she got up to go and couldnt find the light - and was unsure of how to get to the loo, she tried to wake her friend but she wouldnt wake up fast enough, she was so busting she peed the bed. Both the daughter and mum thought she had just wet her bed while asleep.

The second time we where in the car stuck in traffic - after a 45 min hold up she told me she needed to pee - 20 mins later she was busting - we still had at least 30 mins to go with the delay - i told her not to hold it it was ok to pee - i didnt want her doing damage her bladder she ended up peeing in a ice cream container - lol

She has got into a good habbit of going every 1 hr - 90 mins - hopefully her bladder will catch up soon

 

:)

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Has anyone checked your daughter's blood sugar or ran a glucose test on her for Juvenile Diabetes? My friend's eight year old recently had the exact same problem you are having with suddenly wetting her pants and also wetting the bed at night. She was potty trained at 2 so this is very peculiar. Turns out that her daughter has diabetes. It causes increased and frequent urination that becomes quite urgent until the disease is under control. Excess sugar in the blood can only escape through urine so if diabetes is present, and untreated, the body will keep trying to rid itself of the sugar by excessive wetting. Kids can barely deal with this and especially at night. I'm not meaning to cause alarm here but if you have not ruled out juvenile or Type I Diabetes yet.....please check this out. The symptoms in my friends daughter were simply having accidents and wetting the bed which all just popped up without any warning. Once the diabetes was discovered and she started treatment, it all stopped. Please look into this just in case.

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I am glad I found this. I have an 8 yr old son and he has been wetting his pants during the day. I was wondering if it was a side effect of his medication but could not find any thing. Does diabetes run in your friends family or was this a result of medication?

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My friends daughter that was diagnosed with Juvenile Diabetes did not have it in her immediate family. There were some older members which were second generation that did have Diabetes but not her mother, father, grandparents, or siblings. It is hereditary though. She was not on any medication when this was happening. At first, they thought it was a bladder infection, then they thought it was behavioral. Finally, when it kept continuing, one of the nurse practioners at our pediatric office tested my friends child's blood sugar and it was through the roof! BINGO! She went into the hospital to be stabilized and then the wetting stopped as she went on insulin and a sugar-free diet. Just like that.

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Hi,

If your daughter has continued to have accidents since your message posting, I would recommend takig her to see a pediatric urologist. My daughter was potty trained from age 2-4. Shortly after starting preschool, she started having accidents (sometimes up to 6-7 per day). Her pediatrician said to re-train her and she may have regressed since I was pregnant with my other daughter and she may be a little jealous. Long story short...after lots of testing, she was diagnosed with incontinence and bladder dysfuction as well as a small bladder. The muscles were not working properly. After this diagnosis, she started getting Urinary Tract Infections and Kidney infections on a regular basis which would land her in the hospital on many occasions. Further testing showed that she had urinary reflux. Surgery corrected this although she still continues to have accidents on a daily basis. She takes medication for it but I still fight an uphill battle worrying about her being teased or embarrased. I've been lucky this has not happened to her yet. She does well coping with it. The school nurse and teachers are aware of her problem but she has lots of friends that are understanding. I think it helps for them to know that this is because she has a medical condition and not because she's "a baby". She is now 8 years old and in third grade. She carries an extra pair of clothes in her backpack and is allowed to be dismissed if she needs to change. In addition, she wears a panty liner so that any excess urine can leak onto that. This helps tremendously!! If it gets wet, she tears it off and throws it away. Feel free to keep me posted if you have any questions or need advice. I've heard my daughters problem is common.

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I have an eight year old son that was potty trained before the age of two and has been accident free forever..... until last night.... He wet the bed, ok fine that happens.... Hes says he was in a deep sleep... But he came home from school today wearing different pants and underwear.... Apparently he had another accident there!
He says he didin't get there in time. I asked him how his bladder felt... He hasn't noticed any changes. I'm just a little freaked out. We are about to move in with family while my husband goes to training with the goverment... so we are about to have a major change, althought he will still be at the same school. He is my most easy going kid.... I hope I haven't stressed him out. I hope there isn't another peeing incident! If so , what do I do?

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Urinary tract infections are rare in boys, but possible. I'd get him to the doctor and have them test a urine sample.

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I have a 8 year old step daughter. I am not sure if this is the same for boys, but my daughter was having the same problem peeing in her pants. I don't think it happens at school, but it happens at home and at stores. I had my mother talk to her to see what was the matter. I figured my daughter would tell her like kids talk to friends. My daughter told her that she holds her pee because it feels good. 8 years old is around the age of sensations. I have been reading about this now. It will take around 2 years before she starts her period. I don't know if this is helpful to you. But it is something to think about for your son.

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Yes, my 8 year old daughter has been wetting her pants off and on for years. I'm frustrated and don't know what to do. She has seen a doctor and he has no explanation for her condition. She is ADHD, wheather this has anything to do with or not, I don't know. Frustrated,

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If urinary tract problems have been thoroughly ruled out, just relax. I don't know of any adults w/o medical conditions who wet their pants in public. If it's about getting attention, give her attention for other things. Having her peers make fun of her is a natural consequence that she will respond to if she can.

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My son has a processing disorder, not ADHD, and he has occasional accidents too. He still wears a diaper at night and wakes up wet many mornings. During the day he's pretty good, except he tends to wait til the last minute to use the bathroom. Therefore he needs reminders and coaxing to prevent an accident from occuring. He just turned 5.

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Nzermum...I hope your daughter is doing better. It has been two months since my 14-year-old daughter Tristan came down with the flu. It was real bad, it kept her down for about a week. After wetting her bed four times the first day, I ran out and got her some Pull-ups. She has occasionally wet her pants/bed since childhood, but never enough to be worried about. We went through a couple packs of pull-ups during her illness. Often she'd wet while sleeping, but sometimes she'd tell me she had an accident while awake. I didn't worry about it, poor kid was sick.

Anyway, she's been okay health-wise for seven weeks now....but she continues to pee her pants. She did it at home today talking on the phone to a friend (she said she forgot to go) and then at the grocery store this afternoon (I turned around and saw her frantically doing the "potty dance" - before I could direct her to the potty, she wet her pants - she again said she forgot to go). And yesterday she peed her pants at the playground as she was babysitting a 9 year old and 5 year old for our neighbors - she said she was having fun playing and didn't know she had to go.

Sometimes she's okay for a couple days, but sometimes it's like the last four days - 7 daytime accidents and 3 wet beds. She's peed her pants a couple times in school, but mostly it's away from there. She has been upset when it happens, but lately she is more resigned to it, simply letting me know she's wet and not seeming as upset.

She's in pull-ups at night - she hasn't been able to stay dry routinely since she had the flu. And I'm about ready to step her back into pullups during the day. But I feel so bad for her! Any suggestions?

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mgm1:

ADHD can affect it.. purely because they forget or get so engrossed into what they're doing that they don't realize they have to go until it's too late.

If you monitor how often she needs to go and then remind her every so often if you think she should have gone by then it should be okay.

I have to do this with my 15 y/o when he is playing video games.. He also has ADHD

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I'm new here, but am extremely frustrated w/ my 7 year old boy. He has NEVER been fully potty trained. This includes nighttime bed wetting. Now he is in the 2nd grade and is still have problems wetting his pants during the day. It doesn't matter where we are he'll have accidents. Sometimes he'll go up to 3 weeks w/out an accident, but then goes right back to it. His biggest problem is that he is too embarrased to tell somebody that he has to go. If he's at home he just won't go b/c he thinks he'll miss out on going w/ the guys somewhere or playing w/ a friend and thinks it's not cool to go so will we his pants. Today a neighbor boy was over and he POOPED his pants b/c he thought the boy would leave if he left to go to the bathroom. We have taken him to the urologist and he's on medication for overactive bladder so he won't feel like he has to go all the time, but doesn't seem to help. My Mother says that there is something disturbing him and he needs to talk to someone other than us about it. We are so afraid that the kids at school are going to start making fun of him and call him bad names for the rest of his school years. Please, if there is anyone out there w/ this severe of a problem we would take any advice.

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It sounds like your doctor is addressing the physical problems. Why don't you ask the Dr what your expectations should be, and take your mom's advice and go see a psychologist or psychiatrist.

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My oldest son just turned 6. He has some developmental issues. He is potty trained but still wears a diaper at night. Often he wakes up wet. The pediatrician said this is a fairly common problem in children and said it's developmental. It may or may not be related to my son's other issues, we're not sure. We contacted a pediatric urologist who said she doesn't see kids for bed wetting until 8 yrs old. During the day, my son is pretty good. However, he has had a few accidents (pee and seldom poop). I find that if he's distracted, he doesn't want to go to the bathroom. We have to take him there and often make sure he goes. We do this about every 2-2 1/2 hrs. We also informed our son's teacher that she needs to make him use the toilet, not just ask if he has to go. I told her he may need to be brought to the bathroom even if he refuses to go. So far that's been working for us. I'm a bit concerned this yr b/c my son's entering public school. Before this he was in a spec ed school where the teachers were very attentive to his every need. We hope they will be just as attentive in his new school. Over the summer, I can say my son has had maybe 3-4 accidents during the day. Once he was at a friend's house. I felt so bad b/c he didn't even realize it at first or even get embarrassed, but the other kids noticed and said eewww, gross. So, I understand how you feel. Some kids just have an underdeveloped bladder, and it takes time for them to mature. Stay on top of the situation, and don't be afraid to ask for help. Also, if you find you're not getting the support from your son's school, speak up. For health reasons, it is their responsibility to address the situation right away. You also don't want your son to feel badly about this. It's not his fault. If you can get your son over the embarrassment of having to use the toilet by telling him everyone does it, that wld be your first step. You might want to also cut back slightly on fluids (especially before bedtime, and see if that helps. I hope things get better for him soon. Good luck!

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Who is the teacher to deny my son the right to go use the bathroom?
boss can not deny employers to use bathroom
prison officers can not deny inmates to use bathroom
principal can not deny teachers to use bathroom
therefore teachers should not
deny students to use bathroom.

so i told him if you need to go for a wee ask your teacher, and if she tells you no JUST WALK OUT THE CLASS AND GO TO THE TOILET and tell them DADDY said you can go to the loo when you need to.

i know some people will say , your child should wait until recess

what happen if is an emergency e.g. stomach ache or urges to pee?? , bodily function DON`T KNOW ABOUT time specially in a emergencies cases like diarrhea

You teacher , you can not deny my child the right to use the toilet if he has an emergency , what would happen if a student have an accident and wet pants or have a stomach ache in front of a whole class because the teacher denied a student to use bathroom ??
it would be anecdotal for the teacher but for the pupil will be a traumatic and humbling experience for the rest of his/her life and many
many classmates will talk about that during years and the pupil will be humiliated again (and sometimes in front of new people).

why some teachers deny pupils the use of bathroom? students ask for the toilet to avoid some lesson

they would take drugs in bathroom , they can suffered a heart attack along the way......

TEACHER'S EXCUSES

i think some teachers dont let students use the bathroom because want see them with his/her pants-wetted , some teacher have behaviour pedophile

so I recommend to all parents , tell you child that you should wait until recess if you can hold , ok i'm agree , but if you child has an emergency , JUST WALK AND GO ,
teacher is not nobody to deny your child to use the bathroom , message to all parents DON'T LET YOUR CHILD BE HUMILIATED BY A B------ TEACHER. OK?!!
OK.

i see here many teachers are proud of about that. You are lucky my kid isn't in your class , you would have a big problem with me;
but anyway some day you could have a problem with a violent father .

Important: if you are physically strong and athletic person:

If a teacher hit your kid because he left the class because he used the bathroom (forget court because they will do nothing and you'll spend too much money paying
lawyer etc ) you should take the justice by your own hand without fear. Be carefull because you can be tracked (cammeras in school etc ) you can spend some months in Jail and you will get criminal record and that's very bad to find a job , so you should wear some balaclava or wig/glassess and don't talk/ shout to avoid him/her to recognize your voice.
if you know a place without too much people where you can meet with the teacher would be better , but if you know about martial arts you shouldn't be care about people.

advice: attacking from behind

Believe me , if you are strong and athletic (better if you have some knowledge about martial arts) and don't open your mouth and you have your face hidden , you won't be tracked by the police and you shouldn't be afraid.

if you are not physically strong and athletic person and/or you fear of be jailed:

You should pay somebody to take the justice in your place (e.g. doorman ...)

Defend your child against bad teachers. it is a duty !!

Bathroom is a right , not a privilege.

--
Olympic Gold Medalist '04

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hi , i open this topic because i have read some problems about it

Who is the teacher to deny my son the right to go use the bathroom?
boss can not deny employers to use bathroom
prison officers can not deny inmates to use bathroom
principal can not deny teachers to use bathroom
therefore teachers should not
deny students to use bathroom.

so i told him if you need to go for a wee ask your teacher, and if she tells you no JUST WALK OUT THE CLASS AND GO TO THE TOILET and tell them DADDY said you can go to the loo when you need to.

i know some people will say , your child should wait until recess

what happen if is an emergency e.g. stomach ache or urges to pee?? , bodily function DON`T KNOW ABOUT time specially in a emergencies cases like diarrhea

You teacher , you can not deny my child the right to use the toilet if he has an emergency , what would happen if a student have an accident and wet pants or have a stomach ache in front of a whole class because the teacher denied a student to use bathroom ??
it would be anecdotal for the teacher but for the pupil will be a traumatic and humbling experience for the rest of his/her life and many
many classmates will talk about that during years and the pupil will be humiliated again (and sometimes in front of new people).

why some teachers deny pupils the use of bathroom? students ask for the toilet to avoid some lesson

they would take drugs in bathroom , they can suffered a heart attack along the way......

TEACHER'S EXCUSES

i think some teachers dont let students use the bathroom because want see them with his/her pants-wetted ...

so I recommend to all parents , tell you child that you should wait until recess if you can hold , ok i'm agree , but if you child has an emergency , JUST WALK AND GO ,
teacher is not nobody to deny your child to use the bathroom , message to all parents DON'T LET YOUR CHILD BE HUMILIATED BY A TEACHER. OK?!!
OK.

i see here many teachers are proud of about that. You are lucky my kid isn't in your class , you would have a big problem with me;
but anyway some day you could have a problem with a violent father .

Defend your child against bad teachers. it is a duty !!

Bathroom is a right , not a privilege.

to avoid your child have an accident in class?? easy to solve:

tell your child if you need to go for a wee ask your teacher, and if he/she tells you no JUST WALK OUT THE CLASS AND GO TO THE TOILET and tell them DADDY said you can go to the loo when you need to.

BYE BYE , discipline? nothing to do with discipline

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The little lady, age 7, that lives with us, started having accidents at school also, and when checked at her pediatricians office, she had a bladder infection. Once treated for the infection, she has had no more accidents.
The down side to UTI medication is that it caused a yeast infection. So she was then put on medication to clear that up.
She has had no problem since.

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It has been almost 16 months since I posted about my then 14 year old daughter Tristan. She is turning 16 next week and is still wetting her bed quite regularly. Ever since this darn flu! Thank goodness for these Depend diapers that tape like the baby ones; Goodnites Pullups are not thick enough and don't absorb enough at night, not sure what we'd do without the diapers. Our rule is that she has to put her diaper on when she changes into her PJs, since she had forgotten a few times before bed. You can tell she is wearing them under her PJs, and since she usually changes into her PJs as soon as she is done with dinner, she has to be around her little sisters (11, 8, 5) regularly when she is obviously diapered. But she doesn't let it bother her. Her and the five-year old are the only two diapered at night, so they now share a room (the other two didn't want their rooms smelling like diapers, so they share a a room now).

She is wet about 5 times a week and is very good about telling us when she was wet. She has become quite the confident young woman despite this early childhood problem, I'm very proud of her. She usually changes her own diaper, but if I happen to be in there to change Shayla, I change her if she needs it.

She continues to have 2-3 accidents on average during the day each week as well. Some weeks she can go without an accident, and some weeks she's wet every day. She'll get her drivers license on her birthday next week, and I still have to worry about her peeing her pants at school (which has happened 7 or 8 times this school year so far). We do take precautions when I think it will be an issue (car trips, shopping, etc). We went to get our hair colored last weekend and we were going to go shopping afterward. As we were walking out of the salon, she whispered to me that she needed to change her pull-up. She wet her second pull-up as we drove home, just couldn't hold it long enough. We have a rule that in our house that if a kid has two pee accidents in a day, she has to spend the rest of the day and the next day in a diaper. It had been 6 months since I had to use the rule (actually, this was the 11 year old, both on short car trips, she was devastated). So anyway, Tristan changed herself into a diaper at my request. We all went out as a family to a movie that night, and about 20 minutes into the movie, Tristan started to cry and told me she not only peed her diaper but pooped her diaper. I had to take my daughter, 2 weeks from a drivers license to the bathroom to change her poopy diaper. And to boot, my 11 and 8 year olds peed their pants (they still have an accident a week or so themselves)! My 5 year old stayed dry until we were in the car and then peed and pooped her pullup (she was in a pullup as a precaution). I am about ready to put all 4 girls in diapers and just be done with potty training!

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My six year old son is wetting his pants at school up to four times a week, and also wetting the bed almost every night.nothing out of the norm has happend and i can't figure it out. Someone please help me.

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Urinary tract infections are rare in boys, but I would still take him to the doctor before thinking it's psychological

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Take your son to a Pediatric Urologist if you can. Some specialists won't address this issue until the child is at least 8 yrs old, but it's worth a call. Otherwise discuss your options w/ your son's regular dr. My son had this problem for some time. He's now 6. Sometimes when kids are distracted, they tend to disregard going to the bathrm until the last minute. Then they have accidents. Other kids are just developmentally behind and have weeker bladders. W/ age, their bladders get stronger, and children have more control. Finally, at age 6, I believe we have our son's bedwetting under control. This may sound crazy, but I read online once to give your child one teaspoon of Orange Blossom Honey twice a day. Supposedly there's something in the honey that helps w/ bedwetting. You can also try cranberry juice. This juice specifically helps to strengthen the kidneys. Believe me, I was skeptical at first, but I was willing to try anything. The honey is what works best for my son.
As for school, we made sure we told our son's teacher that he needs bathroom reminders throughout the day. The teacher wld pull our son aside discretely and TELL him it's time to use the bathrm. After several months of this, he now goes on his own. So far this yr, our son has had no accidents. We've had to toughen up w/ him, but all in all, it's paying off. Hope this helps.

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well i do'nt have kids yet but i am 9 months 3days pregnant and i wet myself till i was twelve just leave you r child and it will stop or get her tested fotr a bladder infection

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Hm, my daughter haven't got such case, but maybe your daughter experiencing traumatic events...maybe you can try taking her to therapy center or something.
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Let us know what you find out!

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