retention - FamilyEducation
05/14/2007 at 11:12 AM

We have moved three months ago from one state to another and my two youngest boys one is in kindergarten and the other 1st grade came to a school that was more advanced then where they were previously at.  The school (which I love) is recommending retention for both of them so they can get caught up.  I am worried about the effects on them .  I understand they are young and it is better to do it know then maybe two years from now when they are still behind but the teachers say if I do it now next year the boys will have confidence because they will know it all and will be at the "top of the class" instead of not liking school because they are behind.  I would like anybody's input on this especially if their children went through it and how it worked out for the children second time around.


thanks -Randi

Hi Randi,

I'm a teacher here in N.H. and generally I don't like to consider retention.  However, there are some positives to your situation.  One you're in a new state.  Two, there's probably only 30 days max left in this school year.  And three, please don't take this the wrong way, but maybe they haven't made any really SOLID friendships yet.  This gives them the upper hand.  Re-do now, be at the top of their game, and connect with classmates that they will be with at least until middle school.  I'm not sure what state you're in but some states set their school systems up differently.  My boys go to the ONE school in our town.  It's K - 8.  Then they go straight to high school.  I hope this information is helpful.  If you have anymore questions, I'd be glad to try to help.  When it all comes down to it, it really is your decision to make.  Good Luck!