5 year old acting out - help - FamilyEducation
5 year old acting out - help
11/01/2012 at 09:40 AM

I have a 5 year old son, who's behavior was good until last week. All the sudden he started yelling, screaming and throwing stuff at me. This morning he was ok until it was time to leave for school. He made an excuse to look for a toy he couldn't find and started kicking chair, jumping on me, trying to hit me and bit me. I am teriffied. He also said that he doesn't want to go to school. I am starting to think that there is smoeting going on at school, I asked the teacher but she said she didn't noitced anything. Please help, what should I do? he is ackting like that only in front of me....

I'm sorry that must be hard. Not to mention frustrating. If he is only doing it in front of you then he is probably trying to send you a message. Think if anything has changed in your lives, is he getting less time with you, have you been more stressed lately? I teach kinder and see all the time kids who do not care if it's positive attention or negative attention they just want it. Try having a conversation about your concern, your expectation, and listen to him. I would then start a chart of some kind that he could be apart of. If he completes a task the right way or earns a certain number of points he earns fun time with you. It doesn't necessarily even need to cost money. It could be silly hat lunch you make together or mismatch socks movie with popcorn. Things he will want to work for. Just reaffirm when he does something right and he will learn your positive attention is so much sweeter.

Thank you very much for your advise. I had a long conversation with him yesterday and kept asking him what triggers those behaviors. He told me that one of his friends wouldn't play with him at school. I don't think that there was a reason for his behavior. We went to the store and he wanted a small thing for himself and I said no -you needto earn it by good behavior. And this morning he was nice and loving.

Yay! I'm so glad. Remember that there are also developmental emotional stages kids go through too. Just like they always say terrible twos. Just keep stating your expectations and you both will get through It.