It seems everytime I am instructing or discipling our 10-year-old daughter, my husband has to jump in. I feel like this is ganging up on her, I know I wouldn't want two people both verbally coming at me. He believes this is parenting and gets defensive when I ask him to stop. He tends to not discipline unless I am doing it, otherwise when he does he either hollers at her or tries to joke and make light of things to avoid confrontation with her. I believe she has more respect for my authority because she knows where I stand. He is either riding my coatails or swings from one extreme to the other and you don't know which one you will get.
Maybe I am wrong, when discussing with her tonight why it's 9:00 and she is still doing homework he had to get right in there too. He cannot just talk to her at these times, he always has to raise his voice. When I do resort to hollering it is quick and gets your attention. I never make it personal or take it personally. He does the opposite and can take her upsetting him very personally. Any thoughts?