Teen driver
12/05/2011 at 11:29 AM

My son turned 16 and we have given him the privilege to drive to school since he's in 11th grade.

My son makes straight A's and is a very good boy. Obviously, being 16, we do deal with attitude here and there. More and more he tells his dad and I that we need to get up with the times because "everyone else gets to do it..."

Where he goes to school, it does seem most of the parents let their kids drive anywhere, anytime, with anyone and for however long.

When we allowed our son to drive to school, it was to be to school only. But now it's constant wanting to go somewhere to do something. We don't want to seem so strict that he feels he can't do anything, but we don't want to just "turn him loose" either.

We do not want our son to get a job until he graduates at 17. However, we thought if there were ways he could feel like he's "working" to help pay for the extra gas, wear & tear on the car, etc, maybe we could let him drive more, so long as he follows the rules and curfews. Has anyone else done this with their teen that would be willing to give me ideas?

Help him to turn his attention to other things. When I was a teenager a woman I know said "You wouldn't worry so much about what other people think of you if you realized how little time they spend doing it." Start some sort of hobby that the two of you can share--rock collecting, digital photography, pet care, . . . and then get involved with a large group of others.