Teen Affection - FamilyEducation
Teen Affection
05/14/2007 at 08:04 AM

How do I get my son to be more afectionate towards me.

When I try to show affection through hugs, recognizing his special days (birthdays, achievements, graduation, etc.,), or by planning activities together he doesn't show much emotion back which makes me feel very unappreciated.

I am a single mom and I delayed my career to be home for him until he started highschool. 

I know that teenagers go through phases, but this is not something I will accept as he is not being very friendly.

What do you suggest?

My son is now 19, and all through his awkward stages, I didn't push him, I just showed affection in the way I always have, expecting nothing back.  This has paid off, because now he responds and hugs and kisses me back, when he sees me, he is open, and even walks with his arm around my neck in the shopping centres.  Your son is at an awkward age too, and will get over it.  The main thing is that you keep up your affection, and don't think that you must back away and give him space.  He is the one finding his way, and if you keep up that contact, his way will lead him back to you. He will be thankful that you never held back from him. 


Thank you. It's so helpful to hear feedback from people who understand how I'm feeling.  I will implement your advice.


“It's not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it.” - The Golden Girls


I agree with Caroline. My son is now 17 and he went through the same thing. We kept giving him goodnight hugs, and now, he's the one that comes to us and hugs us goodnight.  One time, I just went to bed and didn't say goodnight--he let me know about it the next morning!  So, hang in there and keep showing the love and support.