my 13 year old is driving me insane
01/08/2011 at 21:35 PM

My teenage daughter is a nightmare. i am lost as where to go or what to do. today is my final straw when she threatened to stab me in my sleep.....all because i wanted her to clean her room before she had computer time. it ended up with her smashing me up side the head three times and kicking at me and puching at me becuase once i asked her to do something the attitude started and then it esscallated from there. then she thought she would be brazen and call 911 on me. For what taking her off me and trying to calm her down. yes i pinned her but she was going crazy. i called her bluff and she called. the officer came and even though i had already went to my room crying because i camt deal with her abuse. I am not allowed to touch her but she can abuse me? i honestly dont know how i didnt because i was inraged at this point. also due to the fact the my husband stood there and let her go crazy. he is supposed to help me and maybe thats why our marriage is rocky at times because he always takes her side and gives in to her and doesnt support me or punish her or even follow through on the punishments that i inforce. even today for example after everything that she put me through he still thought that it was ok for her to go on a sleepover......which i wouldnt let her win that one so that caused another fight. he also thought that she should have phone and computer privilages too...am i alone here?
i feel like i am rambling here but it feels good to get things off my chest. i feel so alone and useless because i dont know where i am going wrong. No i didnt get her a cell phone yet because she is irresponsible. No i wont let her pierce her belly button....but yet she stole m,y credit cards and tried to buy her own piercing gun online. Yes i will come to her sc hool and do random checks to make sure she doeant skip school again or to check and see if she is in detention like she says she is. And when you steal cigarettes and lighters from me i will go to school and search her locker randomly. and when she gives me attitude i am going to yell at times when nothing i try to do pleases her. i know i am not alone and i am sorry for anyone who is going through what i am. i need help because she is hurting our family and i cant take the stress any more.

Agree with you. Insist on breaking this habit now.

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It will cause no more confusion than giving up a comfort object (stuffed animal, blankie). It will happen naturally at some point.

The child has to live in two different homes with two sets of rules. That may cause some confusion. If you don't wish to accommodate this priority of your boyfriend, arrange for separate housing.

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