Hi. My husband and I recently found out that our 18 yo son has been smoking marijuana, smoking cigarettes. He started college this past september and didn't do very well. He self sabatoges himself everytime he gets a job and is now currently unemployed. We have spoken to him and want him to go for counseling. He says he doesn't need counseling and refuses to go. He has promised us that he knows what he has to do and will start off his second semester on the right foot. I don't believe him because he has made all these promises before and has never followed through. We can't even through him out of the house because he has no job and he will probably end up in worse shape than he is now. We truly don't know what to do. I am so afraid that he will never change.