I'm a divorced father of a very nice 17 year old daughter who will turn 18 in a few months.
She used to live with me part time and her mom part time. When she turned around 15 she just wanted to live with her mom. This just cut the heart out of me.
But the really sad thing is she hardly ever talks to me.
I don't know what I did to cause this. I used to always take her shopping on weekends and movies. I'd pick her up every day at school since kindergarten and take her to after school things then pick her up when done every day except weekends because he mom was always working late.
The other day I went to her varsity softball game, a double header. I got there near the end of her first game. Between games she walked right past me and I said Hi (her name) to her. She just kept walking to her mom. Then she met her old coach and she gave him a big hug and they talked and laughed together. After they were done I said Hi (her name) again and she just said "Oh, hi" and walked away. So I grabbed my stuff and went home.
She texted me a bunch text messages telling me she was really upset for me leaving. So she said she wanted to talk. I said O.K. I want to talk too. A week later I texted her and asked her if she set aside some time to talk. She said she first wanted to know if I was sorry for leaving. I said I was, then she said she doesn't want to talk. To me, this is abuse. So I just said the ball is in her court. When she wants to talk just let me know. It has been weeks and NOTHING. It will probably be years too.
I have been so sad about this. I feel her mom is partly to blame for this abuse since she often verbally abused me in front of my daughter.
I sent her a little peace gift of a pair of silver earrings Tuesday (13th) of last week (it's the 19th now) first class (she lives in the same small town I do) and just wrote on the gift "Just because you are special" but never got a thank you for it.
Will I have to write her off? I can't talk to her mom because we are not on speaking terms due to her verbaly abusing me in front of my daughter's teacher too. (that was the last straw).
I just don't get it. I've been a good dad. I've done more with her than most dads do in raising their kids since I was a work-at-home dad.
I lose sleep over this. I'm just so tired worrying she will never speak to me again over something so petty as leaving her game early. Of couse she wouldn't hardly ever talk to me before this incident too.
For the most part she's a good kid and does good in school and wants to go to university upon graduation this year. I doubt she will even invite me to her graduation.
What would you do?