hey there, i'm a teen who's 13 going on 14 in secondary two (grade 8 i think? i live in singapore) and i think my mom has an attitude problem.
my parents divorced when i was born, and i never had a close relationship with either... ...
there's a huge communication problem with me and my mom. we never talk, and even when we do, she ALWAYS, never fails to overlap whatever i'm saying with something totally negative. eg, i'm trying to explain why i scraped only a pass in a higher chinese test (higher chinese is like chinese lit, it's reallyreally tough), and she's like ''why are you sooooo stupid, oh my goodness it's only chinese, it's common sense, look at all your other cousins, they are allllll doing so well, why are you so stupid?'' without making the effort to listen to me. and even if the next time i improve(maybe a 55% C?), she doesn't recognise the effort. she'll say ''everyone is getting A's except you.'' it hurts you know, cos i'm doing it for her, so she would be happy, and actually make me feel i'm worth something when she goes ''good job'' or SOMETHING. i've never in my life, never, heard her say those two words. GOOD. JOB. is it that hard to say?!
(has she ever considered that she herself does not know a single word of chinese, and that i'm the only kid in the entire family doing higher chinese?) i mean, we should get a chance to fight for our rights, don't you think?
then after every argument, she'll end off with ''go do your work now, you're so stupid, failing and you're playing, and writing whatever rubbish, go throw it away.'' she expects me to be doing HOMEWORK 24/7, and i have a leadership role in my school, i have my duties and responsibilities i have to cover for.
and, even if she blames me for not doing well, she doesn't try to help me, no matter what i do. i'll ask her how to do a math question, and she'll throw a math book in my face and go ''practise makes perfect''. i mean... how can a book help me? yes, it helps in practice, but no, i do not need practice, not just yet. i need to adjust to the method, the books don't provide methods, they provide blank questions for you to fill up.
and it's not just homework, even if it's something like ''i'm stressed''. she'll just go ''live with it, that's how life is''. and (!) even though she doesn't help me, she does not let me confide in someone else, to talk to anyone at all. seriously. she'll confiscate my handphone, ban me from the com... whatever it takes. i feel so confined, and... it's just... bad, i know it's bad for me. and she won't listen.
what should i do?
(thanks for bearing with my almost essay-long discussion!)