I am in need of both reassurance and advice.
I am mom to an only child - my son, who will be turning 13 next month. Over the last 4-6 weeks we have noticed some changes in his demeanor/attitude and behavior. It is almost at times as if we are living with Jekyl & Hyde never knowing what type of "mood" he will be in. I feel as if I am walking through a mine-filed with him never knowing what it is that I might say and/or do that will set him off.
He seems to want to have more control and/or say over his world and I am hearing "no" or "later" more often when I make a request of him or suggest he do something say like brush his teeth - shower or lights out at a certain time for bed.
This is all new to my husband and I and we wonder where are sweet compliant child has gone. Even when trying to engage him in conversations he is less conversational. He loves being with his friends and that seems to take presendence.
Is this normal behavior and would love suggestions on how to get him to be more compliant to our requests and/or suggestions.
He certainly asks me to do many things for him and was thinking of using that as my leverage letting him know it is hard for me to do the things that he asks of me when I do not get that in return.
Your insights & thoughts are so welcome -thanks