6th grader and gay porn
01/20/2012 at 19:45 PM

My 11yo son who's not that tech savvy (for now) keeps checking out gay porn sites. The first time I found out was when his cellphone bill was unusually high and I had to look into his data usage history.

I asked him about it and he explained he just stumbled across the site. I have some gay friends and we are very diverse family, with beautiful biracial kids, but I would not want my own children to go though the route. I know This is something beyond my control ( IF he was actually gay) but that's my honest feelings.

Now, few months passed and today he visited the same website and searched for some sexual terms on wiki, including the word 'gay'.

Do you think it's too soon to judge/determine that my son's gay?
He talks about his crush( a girl), had a 'girl friend' who he's known for years and went to the prom ( elementary ) together with. Yet, I never came across any case where he was looking at 'regular' porn sites.

My husband is from a notoriously anti-gay culture so I can not consult with him even if it's only on a suspicious level. I don't think my husband will deal with this issue so gracefully..I really don't know what to do!

I'd love to hear any advice or personal experiences from other parents who might have had similar situations. I feel devastated, helpless and confused.