Please help. I am at my wits end. I have a 17 year old boy who has up until about 4 months ago been a wonderful kid. But lately he feels he doesn't have to get a job, has been skipping school, which is something he has never done before. Seems to feel that it's my duty to give him what he wants with no help in return. I'm a single mom working two jobs to support him and myself, have had him in hockey since he was 5 so the expense there has been unbelievable, but I thought I was doing the right thing by keeping him off the streets and involved in community sports. My plan seems to have failed becuase it's been a constant struggle to tell him over and over to get a job, help with the dishes, help around the house. I work 12 - 13 hours a day and I'm running out of steam especially when I get home and see the place a mess.
He's finally gotten himself a job, but worked 3 days then got sick....not sick enough to not go to his friends house....not sick enough to not go away for the weekend but sick enough to not go to work at a job he just got. Now I find out today he's missed a whole week of school!!!
He gives me attitute....yells at me the minute I try to bring something up. Storms out of the house when we have an argument and won't answer his cell phone (which I'm paying for!!)
I can't seem to discipline him anymore cause when I put down a rule he just does what he wants. What can I do...I can't drag him back into the house by the scruff of the neck....he's bigger than me!!
His father isn't involved with him at all right from day 1. It's always been the two of us and we have always had a strong relationship so I don't know where I've gone wrong or how to fix it. I feel like I've lost him and I don't know how to get him back. I don't think he's doing drugs but I just don't know what's going on!
Please if anyone has any advise / help I would be more than willing to give anything a try