After reading some of the discussions, I consider myself pretty lucky. I have a 15-year-old son and a 10-year-old daughter. My son doesn't drink or smoke, run with a fast crowd, etc. The problem I have with him is at home. At times he can be disrepectful, telling me to shut up, or laughing at me if I get frustrated. He knows just what buttons to push, and at times seems to be really anxious to get a rise out of me. When he is iin one of these modes, he just keeps going and going until I end up yelling at him; then it's all my fault--he doesn't like the school he goes to and thinks he's having trouble because of his family life; I have no idea what he's going through because I don't have to go to work (I'm a stay-at-home mom); he says he's out of here when he's 18, etc. Then the mommy part of me feels guilty because he's so down on himself.
We live overseas, and have since he (and his sister) were born. He likes the lifestyle. We are finishing up 3 years in Spain, and in a few weeks should know where we are moving next. I know this is giving him some stress-some of our possibilities he isn't happy with, and of course he says we don't care about what he wants.
Basically I just want to know that there are other moms (or dads!) who get the same stuff. Again, I'm happy that he's not into dangerous things, but sometimes there is a lot of stress between us.