My husband was molested as a child. Over the past 6 months, we've had a couple of arguments with the same theme - he thinks that "I'm out to get him." For example, I said something at a dinner with his family that he (I found out later) didn't want me to share. While it was a complete accident on my part -- it never occurred to me that he wouldn't want me to share the piece of information I did -- he insisted that I "did it to embarrass him" or "hurt him." No matter how often I try to explain to him that (whatever the issue is) I'm not out to hurt him, he doesn't believe me.
I think this type of "trust" issue may be related to him being molested as a child. Does anyone have any experience with this sort of thing? Does anyone know of any good resources for spouses who have partners who have been molested as children?