pretty close. help! - FamilyEducation
pretty close. help!
01/28/2008 at 02:54 AM

hi my name is daphne, im 17, and im having a girl march 22 everyone keeps trying to get me extremly worried about giving birth when they find out im not that worried about it. im actually more worried about getting an epidural because im extremly afraid of needles. lol but it would make me feel a ton better if i knew exactly what is gonna happen. so if you have a good website i can check out about it. please share. or just info. i pretty much know what is gonna happen with my body because thats all i can find, im actually afraid about what the hospital is gonna do and what they deem is nessasary. so please, help!

Daphne, I don’t know why people do this. The same thing happened to my wife when she was pregnant. For whatever reason, people seem to always want to share the negative rather than the positive. The best thing that you can do is to educate yourself. Check with your hospital to see if they offer birthing classes. The classes we attended were very informal, interesting, and empowering as well. When you are in the hospital knowledge is your best friend. Most maternity wards will offer tours to expecting parents to see their facility. If you take a tour this is a great time to ask as many questions as you can.

One of the best things you can do is have a coach with you. Whoever is willing to be there with you the whole time. This person will help you focus on your breathing during contractions, hold your hand, is the official back rubber, and also your advocate. If the father is in the picture, this is his duty. If the father is not around, a parent, or best friend will work.

I’m sure someone will be able to shed more light on this than I have. With our first child we were both scared, after taking the classes our fears were not our focus and we became more fixated on finally meeting this little person who we had been expecting for so long. I hope your experience is as exciting and positive as ours was. Good luck to you.


Of course I don't know specifically about your hospital, but I have seen that my hospital has gone to a much more relaxed, naturalistic birth.  They still have all the technical support equipment right there in case it is needed, but they try to just let your body do what it was designed to do.  I never had an epidural (6 births).  I did have a pudendal block on my 1st.  I understand there is no reason for you to see the needle for an epidural