Time alone with daughter
07/23/2013 at 10:34 AM

I am new parent. Zuri Will Be 6 m/0 2morrow. She is the love of my life. I am learning to love her mother. We have never lived together and it has taken a toll on our relationship. I am not wanting to remarry but I do want to be the best father for my daughter. I live with my mom I am a 38 y/o African American father. Before the baby Zuri's mom lived with a roommate. Since the baby she has moved back in with her parents. We live 130 miles apart. I had been visiting Zuri and her mother every weekend all of that time. I take a care package every time. Sometimes there was even something for everyone but every week there was something for Zuri. The "in-laws" have a large plot of land which I help out on as often as I can. I even write a check every week I can afford it to Zuri's Mother. She was able to buy a car with that money. Last week I got into an accident in my truck it is not running now that was my main source of income (I do landscaping) and transportation. Now I am scrambling to find a way make some money to take care of my daughter. I do all of these thing not only because I have that obligation but it makes me feel good when I do it. This brings me to my point even the very reason that I chose my Username for this forum.

I have never spent an hour alone with my daughter. She has never been out of her mothers sight for more than 10 minutes. Because of our unique situation I have not been able to get that bonding time With Zuri. Finally The opportunity has arisen for my daughter to spend 4-6 hours alone in my presence and her mother has come up with several excuses that will prevent that. One being that I don't have my own place, mind you that I have a very clean safe environment for Zuri to come to. She claims that as a mother, only she will be able to care for Zuri. She has left my daughter several times with her own mother but want leave Zuri alone with me her own father..

I understand this is only a sign of things to come but I need to deal with this now because this opportunity is coming up this weekend. Any suggestions?