screaming! - FamilyEducation
05/23/2007 at 20:15 PM

My 11 month daughter from time to time will scream at the top of her lungs. It is soooo shril. She seems to do it when she is upset about being in her high chair when my husband and I are eating dinner and not directly interacting with her. How do I break her of this habbit?

Hey ssmith,


I bet that can really get on your nerves and hurt your head.  I think the best thing you can do is try to interact with her when she is in her high chair.  If she starts any of the screaming when she is in her high chair, I would try to ignore it and not give her any additional attention---I think if you then you are reinforcing her screaming.


Anyone else have any ideas?




I have twin daughters who are 12 mths old and they did that...a few times.  My husband and I tried ignoring them but that just seemed to make it worse.  So, when they scream while in their highchairs at dinner I get up take them out and put them in their room in their bed and tell them no screaming it's ugly.  And then I least until they stop screaming.  Then I go in and tell them good girl it's nice not to scream.  And go back to the dinner table and  put them back in their seats.  It took a few times and I had to reheat my dinner quite a bit.  But now they seem to take dinner a little better.  But we do have repeats occcasionally.  I thought I was mean by taking them away but I remembered with my son, who is now 6, that it took removing him to make him understand that no one wanted to be around him when he was being ugly.  Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.  But I hope it helps.



my 26 mon th old and 13 monh old go back and forth and together with the same problem. bed time, meal time, getting ready to go, comming home-everything. nothing  works or helps in our home! i try to practice what i preach to their big sisters ( 6&5). patience and consistent reactions will pay off in the future. at least we are blessed with technology that provides much more than our mothers had thirty years ago. oh and i pray all the time that i don't go bald before thirtyone!!


Yes, this is certainly a cry for something. Hmmm.You say it occurs at dinner. Is your daughter feeding herself and perhaps she is asking for something crunchier? Is there a way she could be in a booster chair so she won't feel out of the loop. Eye contact is an important part of any meal.

Good luck. I teach little ones (Montessori) and there is one little boy who has no idea how loud he is. When we point it out- we model a softer voice (almost to an extreme). This may help her modulate her voice.

Jan Katzen-Luchenta AMI

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