My 3 year old baby - FamilyEducation
My 3 year old baby
06/22/2010 at 04:42 AM

I have a 3 year old baby girl and i doubt if its normal that she is so hardheaded. She do whatever we prohibit her to do so and it raises my temper. She never gets tired of doing anything. It seems to me that she is so naughty. How can i control her????By the way thanks in advance!! i really need your help moms..

With a 3 year old, there are a couple of things that will make your lives easier. First, set up your household so that she has a place where she may play safely without too much direction from you. Have a place where there are only things that she may use. If she starts to do something that you do not wish her to do, direct her attention to something that is OK for her to do. The second thing is much more difficult. Develop the habit of saying what you want. Instead of saying, "Don't run," say, "Walk." Eliminate "Do not" from your speech. I was told that children's minds will not hear the word 'don't'. So, if you say "Don't eat that," they hear "Eat that."

All I can say is that no matter what your child's age is, it is important to know how is your child's behavior working for you, and how is it working for them. Children at the pre-school stage are developing a whole host of new skills, including: wanting more independence; asserting their wants; and learning about friendship. One of the best things you can do when parenting a three-year-old is to support your child in attaining these new skills without allowing them to become demanding or spoiled. To ensure you don't fall into unhealthy habits that promote power struggles, choose to use a firm--but kind--approach and look for ways that your child can learn from each situation. Fire Yourself as Boss of the Household! Many parents buy into the belief that mom should be the boss of the household and be in control. Yet, we must remember that we are modeling for our children how to act every single minute of the day. Our kids learn more from what we do than from what we say. If they see us pulling rank as "boss", they will attempt to be "boss" too. Unfortunately, when this happens, they may outrank us and the real power struggles will begin! Stay Firm but Kind. If they fight, you follow-through. Do this without yelling, scolding or punishing. Don't buy into their tears, and definitely don't get into a debate. Stay firm, but stay kind. Tell them that when they want a hug, to come find you. I know keeping your cool is easier said than done. If you truly wish to succeed at being in the best shape of your life, indulge yourself by reading Self Help Articles online.

Hi! I have a three-year-old too, so I know what a challenge it can be. I don't know if we're allowed to mention other parenting resources here, but I found a great new blog called Joyful Toddlers! that talks about positive discipline, saying what you DO want your kids to do instead of what you don't want them to. You can find it at Good luck!