I NEED some sleep!! - FamilyEducation
I NEED some sleep!!
05/19/2007 at 09:42 AM

Somebody PLESE help.

    My two year old daughter will not stay asleep. Let me quickly go through our routine and then the problem. She gets about and 1 1/2 nap at around 12:00, and then she goes to bed at 8:00. She normally doesnt have a problem going to bed, but about once a week its a big deal and she wont stay in bed. She goes to bed with a sippy cup of milk, and a binky. She wont sleep at all without them. Then she's fine until about 11:00. This is when she starts waking up, crying, getting out of bed, and come and crawls into mommy and daddys bed. My wonderful wife then puts her back to bed. Sometimes she lets her breastfeed for a little bit to help her fall back asleep. This happens almost every two hours, sometimes every hour. It normally averages about 4 to 5 times throughout the night. My wife and I just dont know what its like to sleep anymore. WE SERIOUSLY NEED HELP! Thanks.

Hey Hipki,


The first thing I would stop is that sippy cup at bed.  This can cause serious problems with teeth in the future.  I had a friend whose son did this and it really ruined his teeth.  She has had to spend thousands of dollars on dental work.


On the sleeping issue, I remember our doctor telling us that when kids of that age get up in the middle of the night the worse thing you can do is give them the breast or a bottle because then they get up at that time looking for it.  What my doctor said was, if you woke up in the middle of the night and someone had a great meal fixed for you then wouldn't you get up every night at that time looking for that meal?  I would walk her back to the bed without any food, milk or conversation, put her back in bed and go back to my bed.  It might be hard at first but if you continue to do this night after night it will work.


It is so hard when kids get up like this all night, good luck and keep us posted.






It's ok to lock your door and let your daughter know that your room is off limits. You could also take turns wearing earplugs. Then at least one of you can sleep. 


I really don't agree with locking your door.  I think that for comfort reasons your child should ALWAYS know that they can get to you.  A good fried of mine, Victor,  dealt with this problem brilliantly.  If his two year old son, Luca,  woke up and left his room,Victor woulld pick him up , without saying a word and bbring Luca back to his bed.  Then before closing the door, he would say "dodo" (a french term for bedtime).


thank  for letting me know i will think uf sothing


We let our boys crawl in bed between us and we all fell back to sleep. They eventually grew out of it, about age 4 or 5. However, I know that many people don't want to use that method. I remember my mom (a single mom) had a hard chair for me to sit in when I couldn't sleep ("OK, if you can't sleep you can sit here."). I quickly learned that it felt better just to stay in bed.

Sipping while sleeping can also cause ear aches as well as tooth damage, so it should stop. Is there any chance that you could make sure she is getting enough exercise so that she is more tired? (Of course, it may not matter at all, and also, no exercise too close to bed time.)  Or, is there something she is eating that may be causing her to be anxious at bedtime? We learned that our oldest couldn't have sugar or red dye. My mother didn't believe me and once when she was watching him while we went out, we came home at 2 a.m. and he was bouncing on the bed while she patiently laid there. I looked at her and she said, "You're right about the sugar and red dye." She had given him pudding for dessert and another red popsicle for a treat about an hour later.  Of course, what works for one child won't matter for another. You just have to try different things to find the right one for your daughter.