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Help me
07/10/2007 at 23:42 PM

I have a 2 year old little girl. I am at a total loss of what to do with her. She is very aggresive. She will hit and bite me if I tell her no. She does not act like this with other people. I have asked the babysitter about it and she says it doesn't happen at her house. I have tried put her in time out and I dont agree with spanking. She will not keep her diaper on, we have even went to the extent of duct taping her diaper. It worked for a little while but she managed to figure out a way to get it off!! And to top it all off she just learned how to climb out of her crib and will not sleep in a toddler bed. She stays up until the wee hours of the morning until she finally falls a sleep on the floor. It is very frustrating and I am at a total loss of how to control her behavior. I have another girl that is 7 and do not remember the terrible twos being this bad!! Any Ideas????? 

Hey Mommyofgirls,


Welcome to the boards.  I would say stay firm and don't give in, at that age they push, push, push.  I would also talk to her doctor and see if there are any good ideas that they have from years of hearing about issues like this.


Anyone else have any ideas?




The most helpful resource I’ve found for the toddler years is, he has 8 kids of his own and has seen it all!! I’m sure you will find some helpful tips there for what sounds like pretty typical two year old behavior!!


I have 3 kids. (I don't believe in spanking either). I have found that the best discipline is to reward the other two with something that that child would want (extra playtime, a tootsie roll, something that works for your kid). We live in a small apartment, so all 3 are in one room. When they were all small, they each went through a time when they did not want to go to bed when it was time. They tried drama, asking for things, you name it! The one who was acting out had to stay in bed, the other two got 10 minutes to stay up and play (my husband would be out in the livingroom with them making lots of play sounds). No body wants to be the one who doesn't get something - it's human nature. It never took more than one or two times of that with each kid. They learned a serious consequence, they learned that I did what I said I was going to do, and they learned how to be part of our family team. You have to figure out what she wants most and be willing to use it to teach her how to behave.