Ok I have a huge problem. I have a two year old her name is Alivia. She is a bright but shy toddler who basically has a mind of her own. I have recently been faced with a problem of having to choose between a great Church based day care and my mom who has helped me care for Alivia since she was born. My mom is a diabetic and has had a recent set back and has been in the hospital. I have been put in the tough spot of having to find child care because my mom has always been that person and everyone else in my family works... go figure. Well I got Alivia enrolled in a great daycare everyone highly recommends the church and they start immediately teaching her the basics even with her being two. Well my mom is under the impression that once she is 100% cleared from the doc that she is going to go back to keeping Alivia full time, but is this such a great idea? Alivia got the last spot in this church and they only have 11 spots available for two year olds. They provide a structure which being a working mom and having a husband that also works is something tough to develop and keep. However, I don't want to hurt my mom by saying I really want to leave her in this environment because its basically going to get her ready for Pre-K. I just don't know what to do. I'm stuck because Alivia has kept my mom going and she is the only grandchild but I don't want to deprive Alivia of the chance to make new friends and learn new things. She is so smart and she has such a great little character... will me getting her in this church based daycare be a good thing or will it be a mistake and should i just basically just call it a temporary thing?