3 year old - Aggressive Behavior at School
01/31/2012 at 06:08 AM

I am new to this board and trying to find any good suggestions I can because we are out of ideas. This might be a little long but background is necessary.
My son is 3 years old and up until recently has always been a relatively easy child. He never really had tantrums, didn't do the "terrible twos" thing so badly and is VERY verbal. The reality, not bragging, is that he is very smart, sometimes too smart, at least for my own good!!! He started at a new school, which happens to be the school where I teach, after Thanksgiving, and since then he has been displaying completely uncharacteristic aggressive behavior. He has always been stubborn and strong willed but never aggressive, especially not physically aggressive. However, at school now, he is hitting teachers and occasionally children just abotu every day. He gets angry or frustrated and then hits, kicks, throws things, and throws full on tantrums. The school is dealing with this the best they can but my husband and I are at a loss. We are trying to get to the root of the anger and address the behavior at the same time. We have gone into very clear black and white rewards and consequences for his behavior. He understands hwo it works but doesn't seem to be able to control his actions once he gets upset. It's like he's on the defensive all the time at school and gets angry very quickly. We are so fried from dealing with this and don't know if what we're doing is even effective at this point. Any suggestions or ideas or techniques would be greatly appreciated. He is also an only chid and hasn't had a lot of "play dates" because most of our closest friends don't have kids. We are making an effort to have him play with other kids more to help him learn to socialize properly and when he's good he's VERY good and does well. I am not sure hopw much of this is normal and how much is not but I do know that hitting teachers at school needs to be addressed and stopped. Ideas? Help?