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Dont Be Sad
12/20/2010 at 11:41 AM

The Past is Gone Forever:

By brooding over the past and its tragedies, one exhibits a form of insanity - a kind of sickness that destroys resolve to live for the present moment. Those who have a firm purpose have filed away and forgotten occurrences of the past, which will never again see light, since they occupy such a dark place in the recesses of the mind.

Episodes of the past are finished with; sadness cannot retrieve them, melancholy cannot make things right, and depression will never bring the past back to life. This is because the past is non-existent.

Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother's womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind.

Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present.

Former days are gone and done with, and you benefit nothing by carrying out an autopsy over them, by turning back the wheels of history.

The person who lives in the past is like someone who tries to saw sawdust. Of old, they used to say: "Do not remove the dead from their graves."

Our tragedy is that we are incapable of dealing with the present: neglecting our beautiful castles, we wail over dilapidated buildings. If every man and every jinn were to try jointly to bring back the past, they would most certainly fail. Everything on earth marches forward, preparing for a new season and so should you.

Today is All That You Have: When you wake up in the morning, do not expect to see the evening live as though today is all that you have. Yesterday has passed with its good and evil, while tomorrow has not yet arrived. Your life's span is but one day, as if you were born in it and will die at the end of it. With this attitude, you will not be caught between an obsession over the past, with all its anxieties, and the hopes of the future, with all its uncertainty. Live for today: During this day you should pray with a wakeful heart, and remember God with sincerity. In this day you should be balanced in your affairs, satisfied with your allotted portion, concerned with your appearance and health. Organize the hours of this day, so that you make years out of minutes and months out of seconds. Seek forgiveness from your Lord, remember Him, prepare for the final parting from this world, and live today happily and at peace. Be content with your sustenance, your wife, your children, your work, your house and your station in life. You must engrave onto your heart one phrase: Today is my only day. If you have eaten warm, fresh bread today, then what do yesterday's dry, rotten bread and tomorrow's anticipated bread matter? If you are truthful with yourself and have a firm, solid resolve, you will undoubtedly convince yourself of the following: Today is my last day to live. When you achieve this attitude, you will profit from every moment of your day, by developing your personality, expanding your abilities, and purifying your deeds. Then you say to yourself: Today I shall be refined in my speech and will utter neither evil speech nor obscenity. Also, I shall not backbite. Today I shall organize my house and my office. They will not be disorderly and chaotic, but organized and neat. Today I will be particular about my bodily cleanliness and appearance. I will be meticulous in my neatness and balanced in my walk, talk, and actions. Today I will strive to be obedient to my Lord, pray in the best manner possible, do more voluntary acts of righteousness, and read beneficial books. I will plant goodness into my heart and extract from it the roots of evil such as pride, jealousy, and hypocrisy. Today I will try to help others to visit the sick, to attend a funeral, to guide the one who is lost, and to feed the hungry. I will stand side by side with the oppressed and the weak. I will pay respect to the scholar, be merciful to the young, and reverent to the old. O' past that has departed and is gone, I will not cry over you. You will not see me remembering you, not even for a moment, because you have traveled away from me never to return. O' future, you are in the realm of the unseen, so I will not be obsessed by your dreams. I will not be preoccupied about what is to come because tomorrow is nothing and has not yet been created. `Today is my only day' is one of the most important statements in the dictionary of happiness, for those who desire to live life in its fullest splendor and brilliance.
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Leave the future alone until it comes: Be not hasty and rushed for things that have yet to come to pass. Do you think it is wise to pick fruits before they become ripe? Tomorrow is non-existent, having no reality today, so why should you busy yourself with it? Why should you have apprehensions about future disasters? Why should you be engrossed by their thoughts, especially since you do not know whether you will even see tomorrow? The important thing to know is that tomorrow is from the world of the unseen, a bridge that we do not cross until it comes. Who knows, perhaps we might never reach the bridge, or the bridge might collapse before we reach it, or we may actually reach it and cross safely. For us to be engrossed in expectations about the future is looked down upon in our religion since it leads to our having a long-term attachment to this world, an attachment that the good believer shuns. Many people of this world are unduly fearful of future poverty, hunger, disease, and disaster: such thinking is inspired by the Devil. Many are those who cry because they see themselves starving tomorrow, falling sick after a month, or because they fear that the world will come to an end after a year. Someone who has no clue as to when he wil die (which is all of us) should not busy himself with such thoughts. Since you ire absorbed in the toils of today, leave tomorrow until it comes. Beware of becoming unduly attached to future prospects in this world.
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How to deal with bitter criticism: Those who are ignorant have uttered curses at God, the Exalted, the Creator of ill that exists, so what treatment should we, who are full of faults, expect from people. You will always have to face criticism, which in its onslaught is like an interminable war: it shows no sign of ending. As long as you shine, give, produce, and have an effect upon others, then disapproval and condemnation will be your lot in life. Until you escape from people by finding a tunnel in the ground or a ladder leading to the sky, they will not desist from censuring you, from finding fault in your character. For that reason, as long as you are from the denizens of earth, expect to be hurt, to be insulted, and to be criticized. And here is something you should contemplate: a person who is sitting on the ground does not fall, and people do not kick a dead dog. Therefore their anger toward you can be attributed to you surpassing them in righteousness, knowledge, manners, or wealth. In their eyes you are a transgressor whose wrongs cannot be atoned for unless you abandon your talents and strip yourself of all praiseworthy qualities, so that you become stupid, worthless, and to them, innocuous. This result is exactly what they want for you. So remain firm and patient when facing their insults and criticism. If you are wounded by their words and let them have an influence over you, you will have realized their hopes for them. Instead, forgive them by showing them the most beautiful of manners. Turn away from them and do not feel distressed by their schemes. Their disapproval of you only increases you in worth and merit. Verily, you will not be able to silence them, but you will be able to bury their criticisms by turning away from them and dismissing what they have to say. In fact, you will be able to increase them in their rage by increasing your merits and developing your talents. If you desire to be accepted by all and loved by all, you desire the unattainable.
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So beautiful! Thank you for your words of encouragement!
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You welcome. These are the facts but we will be blind during our problems. Its just the darkness of our bad circumstances.
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Do not expect gatitude from anyone: God the Almighty, created His slaves to that they may worship and remember Him, and He provided sustenance for them so that they may be grateful to Him. Nevertheless, may have worshipped other than Him and the masses are thankful not to Him, but to others, bcs the characteristic of ingratitude is widespread among human beings. So do not be dismayed when you find that others forget your favors or disregard your kind acts. Some people might even despise you and make you an enemy for no other reason than that you have shown them kindness. From among the ever-repeating pages of history is a story of a father and his son: the former raised him, fed him, clothed him and taught him; he would stay up nights so that his son could sleep, stay hungry so that his son could eat, and he would toil so that his son could feel comfort. And when the son became older and stronger, he rewarded his father with disobedience, disrespect and contempt. So be at peace if you are requited with ungratefulness for the good you have done. Rejoice in your knowledge that you will be rewarded from the ONE who has unlimited treasures at His disposal. This is not to say that you should refrain from performing acts of kindness towards others; the point is that you should be mentally prepared for ingratitude. Perform acts of charity seeking God's pleasure, bcs with this attitude you will assuredly be successful. the ungrateful person can not really harm you: thanks to God that this person is the transgressor and that you are the obedient servant. Also, remember that the hand that gives is better than the hand that receives. Do not be in a state of agitation if you give someone a pen and he uses it to satirize you, or if you give someone a walking stick to lean upon and he strikes you with it. As I pointed out earlier, most human beings are ungrateful to their Lord, so what treatment should you and I expect?
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Doing good to others gives comfort to the heart: The first person who benefits from an act of charity is the benefactor himself, by seeing changes in himself and in his manners, by finding peace, by watching a simle form on the lips of another person. If you find yourself to be in difficulty or distress, show kindness to others, and you will be the first to find solace and comfort. Give to the needy, defent the oppressed, help those in distress, and visit the sick: you will find that happiness surrounds you from all directions. An act of charity is like perform - it benefits the user, the seller, and the buyer. Furthermore, the psychological benefits that one receives from helping others are indeed great. If you suffer from depression, an act of charity will have a more potent effect on your sickness than will the best available medicine. Even when you smile upon meeting others, you are giving charity. On the other hand, when you frown upon meeting others, you are displaying a sign of enmity, an act that is so deterimental to brotherhood that only God knows the full extent of its evil effects. Help others in different ways through charity, hospitality, sympathy, and support. And in doing so, you will find all of the happiness that you desire.
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Repel boredom with work: Those who have nothing to do with their lives are the same people who spend most of their time spreading rumors and flashhood, mainly bcs their minds are devoid of beneficial thoughts. If you find yourself to be idle, prepare for depression and despair, bcs idleness allows your mind to wander in the past, the present, and the future, with ll of their diffculties. Therefore, my sincere advice to you is to perform fruitful acts instead of being idle, for idleness is a slow and veiled form of suicide. Idleness is like the slow torture that is inflicted upon prisoners in China: they are placed under a tap, from which a drop of water falls only every hour. During the period of waiting between drops, many of them lose their minds and are driven to insanity. Being inactive means being negligent of one's duties. Idleness is an expert thief and your mind is a victim. Therefore get up now and say a prayer, read a book, study, write, organize your library, fix something in your house, or benefit others so that you can put an end to your inactivity. I say this only bcs I sincerely wish for your betterment. Destroy boredom by working. If you apply this simple precept alone, you will have travelled at least 50% of the wy towards happiness. Look at the farmers, carpenters, and the bread-maker, and observe how, when they are working, they recite words as melodious as the singing of birds, bcs they are content. Afterwords observe yourself and how the toss and turn on your bed while wiping away your tears, always miserable, always torturing yourself.
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Do not be a mimicker: Do not transform yourself into someone who you are not: do not mimic others. Many are those that feign to forget their own voices, movements, idiosyncrasies, and habits, in order to imitate others in their ways. Among the consequences of such behaivour are artificiality, unhappiness, and a destruction of one's own entity. From Adam to the last born baby, no two people are exactly the same in appearance. So why then should they be the same in mannerisms and tastes? YOU ARE UNIQUE. None had been like you in the past and none shall be like you in the future. You are totally different from X or Y, so do not force upon yourself the blind following and imitation of others. Go forth according to your own nature and disposition. Be as you were created and do not change your voice or modify your walk. Cultivate your personality by following what is found in revelation, but do not render your existence void by imitating others and by depriving yourself of your individuality. Your tastes and preferences are specific to you and we want you to stay as you are, especially bcs that is the way you were created and that is how we know you to be. In terms of characteristics, people are like the world of trees and plants: sweet and sour, tall and short, and so on. Your beauty and value is in preserving your natural state. Our varied colors, languages, talents, and abilities are signs from our Creator, so do not disbelieve in them.
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Pre-ordainment: All the events that are coming to you are written ahead in God's will. Each event has befallen you was not meant to escape you, and whatever has escaped you was not meant to befall you: if this belief were to be firmly ingrained in your heart, then all hardship and difficulty would become ease and comfort. For this reason, do not feel overly troubled if you are afflicted with sickness, the death of a son, or a loss in wealth. God has decreed these matters to occur and the decisions are His, and His alone. If we truly have this faith, we shall be rewarded well and our sins shall be atoned for. For those that are afflicted with disaster, glad tidings await them: so remain patiend and happy with your Lord. You will never feel completely feel at ease until you firmly believe that God has already pre-ordained all matters. The pen has dried and with is has been written every thing that will happen to you. Therefore do not feel remorse over that which is not in your hands. Do not think that you could have prevented the fence from falling, the water from flowing, the wind from blowing, or the glass from breaking. You could not have prevented these things, whether you wanted to or not. All that has been preordained shall come to pass. Surrender yourself: believe in preordainment, before pangs of anger and regret overwhelm you. If you have done all that was in your power, and afterwards what you have been striving against still take place, have firm faith that it was meant to be. Do not say "Had I done such and such, such and such would have happened" rather than say "This is the decree of God, and what He wishes, He does"
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Verily, with hardship, there is relief: Eating follows hunger, drinking follows thirst, sleep comes after restlessness, and health takes the place of sickness. The lost will find their way, the one in difficulty will find relief, and the day will follow the night. Inform the night of a coming morning, the light of which will permeate the mountains and valleys. Give to the afflicted tidings of a sudden relief that will reach them with the spread of light or with the blinking of an eye. If you see that the desert extends for miles and miles, then know that beyond that distance are grean meadows with plentiful shade. If you see the rope tighten and tighten, know that it will snap. Tears are followed by a smile, fear is replaced by comfort, and anxiety is overthrown by serenity. Those that are slaves of the moment see only misery and wretchedness. This is bcs they look only at the wall and door of the room, whereas they should look beyond such barriers as are set before them. Therefore do not be in despair: it is impossible for things to remain the same. The days and years rotate, the future is unseen, and every day God will afterwards bring some new things to pass. And verily, with hardship there is relief.
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Convert a lemon into a sweet drink: An intelligent and skillful person transforms losses into profits; whereas, the unskilled person aggravates his own predicament, often making 2 disasters out of one. If you are afflicted with a misfortune, look on the bright side. If someone were to hand you a glass full of sequeezed lemons, add to it a handful of sugar. And if someone gives you a snake as gift, keep its precious skin and leave the rest. Before its violent revolution, France imprisoned 2 brilliant poets: one an optimist, the other a pessimist. They both sequeezed their heads through the bars of their cell windows. The optimist then stared at the stars and laughed, while the pessimist looked at the dirt of a neighboring road and wept. Look at the other side of tragedy - a circumstance of pure evil does not exist, and in all situations one can find goodness and profit reward from God.
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Enough for you is your home: The words "isolation" and "seclusion" have a special meaning, its to stay away from evil and its perpetrators, and to keep those who are foolish at a distance. And when you seclude yourself from evil in this manner, you will have an opportunity to reflect, to think, to graze in the meadows of enlightenment. If you isolate yourself from things that divert you from God's obedience, you are giving yourself a dose of medicine, one that doctors of the heart have found to be a most potent cure. If you seclude yourself from evil and idleness, your brain is stimulated into action. The results are increases in faith, repentance, and remembrance of God.
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Your recompense is with God: If God takes something away from you, He compensates you with something better, but only if you are patient and seek your reward from Him. So do feel excessive sorrow over some misfortune, bcs God who decreed it has with Him Paradise: recompense and a great reward. Truly, the life of this world is short and its treasures are few. As for those who cling to this world, who are attached to it, and who are in love with it, the hardest thing for them to bear would be to lose the world's comforts and riches: they desire to enjoy this life alone. Because of this desire, they dont react to misfortune as well as others do, what they perceive around them is this life alone: they are blind to its impermanence and insignificance. O' afflicted ones, if you are patient you lose nothing; and though you may not perceive it, you are profiting.
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Faith is life itself: Those that are wretched, in the full sense of the word, are those that are benefit of the treasures of faith. They are always in a state of misery and anger. The only means of purifying the heart and of removing anxieties and worries from it is to have complete faith in your God and yourself. In fact, there can be no true meaning to life when one has no faith. The best course of action that a confirmed atheist can take, if he will not believe, is to take his own life. At least by doing so, he will free himself from the darkness and wretchedness in which he lives. How base and mean is a life without faith!. How eternally accursed is the existence enveloping thouse who are outside of the boundaries set down by God. Has not the time come when the world should have unquestioning faith - that none has the right to be worshipped except Him?
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Extract the honey but do not break the hive: Everything that has gentleness in it is beautified, and whatever lacks it is spoiled. It is like when you meet someone, giving him a brigh smile and a kind word, you are displaying a characteristic of the truly successful person, a characteristic tht even a bee exhibits. If a bee lands on a flower (doing so for a practical purpose) it does not destroy it, bcs God rewards gentleness with that which He does not give for harshness. There are certain people whose personalities are like magnets, attracting everyone who is nearby, simply bcs they are loved for their gentle talk, their good manners, and their noble deeds. In winning the friendship of others is an art that is mastered by those that are noble and pious; a circle of people constantly surrounds them. Their mere presence in a gathering is a blessing, and when they are absent they are missed and asked about. Those people suck out malice from others with their sincerity, forgiveness and gentleness. They forget evil that was enacted upon them and preserve the memory of kindnesses received. Biting, hard words may be aimed at them, but such words pass by their ears without entering and continue on their path without ever returning. They are in a state of calmness. People in general are safe from suffering any harm at their hands. Give to such people glad tidings of an imminent reward in this world, in terms of peace and tranquility.
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And, the bright smiles and kind words will make the day of the giver and receiver!
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2xstepmom, Sometimes when the darkness of our problems shade over our heads, a need will be rising for people to support you. For that reason, I do believe that is why God sent prophets as humen beings not angels. Think with me, if the prophets were angels, people will say we do not have the ability to imitate them as they are angels and they are perfect and we are not angels and not perfect. Angels do not eat, or get tired. They just do what God order them to do. For that reason, people need people for supporting. People need creatures who have lived a regular humen being life. By those, you will have bright smiles and kind words that will make the day of the giver and receiver.
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Verily, in the remembrance of God do hearts find rest: Truthfulness is beloved by God and is purifying soap for the heart. And there is no deed that gives such pleasure to the heart, or has greater reward, than the remembrance of your Creator. If you remember God, clouds of worry and fear are driven away, and the mountains that make your problems are blown away. Shouldn't we be surprised when we hear that people who have faith are at peace. The truly surprising is how the negligent and unmindful survive without having that faith. To the degree tht you remember your God, your heart will be calm and cheerful. His remembrance carries with it the meaning of total dependence upon Him, of turning to Him for aid, of having good thoughts about Him, and of waiting for victory from Him. Truly, He is near when supplicated: He hears when He is called and He answers when He is invoked, so humble yourself before Him and ask of Him sincerely. Repeat His beautiful blessed name, and mentiond Him is being alone worthy of worship. Mention his Praises, supplicate to Him and ask forgiveness from Him: you will find - by the will of God - happiness, peace and illumination.
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Do they envy men for what God has given them of His Bounty? Jealousy is a disease that wreaks havoc not only on the mind, but also on the body. It is said that there is no repose for the jealous one and that he is an enemy wearing the grab of a friend. In doing justice to the disease of jealousy, one can say that it is a fair one, for it begins with its bearer, killing him first. I forbid both you and myself from jealousy, bcs before we can show mercy to others, we must first show it to ourselves. By being jealous of others, we are feeding misery with our flesh and blood and we are giving our sound sleep to others. The jealous person lights a fire and them jump into it. Jealousy begets grief, pain, and suffering, thus destroying what was once a calm and virtuous life. The curse of the jealous one is that he contests fate and contends that his Creator is unjust. The jealous person shall remain in fury until the day he dies, or until the good fortune of others departs from them. Everyone can be reconciled except the jealous one, bcs reconciliation with him requires that the blessing of God are removed from you or that you give up your talents and good qualities. If you were to do this, then perhaps he would become happy despite himself, and we seek refuge in God from the evil of the jealous one, a person who becomes like a black poisonous snake, finding no repose until it releases its venom into an innocent body. So stay far away from jealousy and seek refuge from God from the jealous person, bcs he is constantly watching you.
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Accept life as it is: The pleasure of life are short-lived, and more often than not, they are followed by sorrow. Life means responsibility, a journey wherein change is constant and difficulties are relentless in thier onslaught. You will not find a father, a wife, or a friend who is free from problems. God has willed for this world to be filled with 2 opposites: good and evil, righteousness and corruption, happiness and misery. Thus goodness, uprightness and happiness are for Paradise: evil, corruption and misery are for the Hell. So live according to your reality without always envisioning the ideal life, one that is free from worry and toil. Accept life as it is and adapt accordingly to all circumstances. You will not find in this world such things as the flawless comapnion or the perfect situation, bcs flawlessness and perfection are qualities that are foreign to this life. It is necessary for us to make amends: to take what is easy and leave what is difficult; and ver frequently, to overlook the faults and mistakes of others.
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A question which need an answere "Do you think Faith is important?" Or "why you think its not important?" Hope that all will participate.
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Find consolation by remembering the afflicted: Look around you, to the right and to the left. Do you not see the afflicted and the unfortunate? In every house there is mourning and upon every cheek run tears. How many tribulations and how many people persevere with patience? You are not alone in your troubles, which are few compared to those of others. How many sick people remain bedridden for years while suffering from unspeakable pain? How many have not seen the light of the sun for years due to their imprisonment, having knowledge of nothing but the four corners of their cell? How many men and women have lost their dear children in the prime of youth? How many people are troubled or tormented? Find consolation with those that are worse off than you; know that this life is like a prison for the believer, an abode of grief and sadness. In the morning castles are bustling witn inhabitants; then in an instant, disaster occurs, and they are empty and desolate. Life can be peaceful, the body in good health, wealth abundant, and children healthy; and yet in only a metter of days, poverty, death, separation, and sickness can all take their place. You must adapt like the experiend camel, with manages with necessary, to kneel upon a rock. You mush also compate your difficulties with the difficulties of those around you, and with those that have come before you; you should realize that you are in good shape relative to them, and that you have merely been pricked by tiny difficulties.
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The prayer.... the prayer: If you are beset with fear and anxieties, stand up right now and pray; your soul will find comfort and solace. The prayer as long as you perform it sincerely with a wakeful heart, is guaranteed to have this effect for you. I have read biographies of many righteous people, who would always turn to prayer when they were surrounded by difficulties and hardship, people who would pray until their strength, will , and resolution returned to them.
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God is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs: By leaving your affairs to God, by depending upon Him, by trusting in His promise, by being pleased with His decree, by thinking favorably of Him, and by waiting patiently for His help, you reap some of the greater fruits of faith and display the more prominent characteristics of the believer. If you incorporate these qualities into your character, you will be at peace concenrning the future, bcs you will depend on your Lord for everything. As a result, you will find care, help, protction, and victory. If you want to be sincere to yourself, God will save you from calamity and disaster.
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Do we need to travel in the land ... ? Travel in the land gives pleasure and remove dark clouds that may hand over you.. Observe the open book of creation, and appreciate all of its wonders. During your journeys, you can see gardens of splendor and beautiful green meadows. Leave your home and contemplate that which surronds you. Climb mountains, traverse valleys, ascend trees, and drink sweet, pure spring water. Thereupon, you will find your soul to be free like the bird that sings and swims in the sky in perfect rapture. Leave your home and remove the black blindfold from your eyes, and then travel through the spacious lands that you have.. To isolate yourself to the confines of your own room, while passing the hours away with lethal idleness, is a certain path to self-destruction. Your room is not the only place in the world, and you are not the sole inhabitant of it. Then why do you surrender yourself to misery and solitude? Travelling to different lands is an activity which doctors recommend, especially for thouse who are feeling downcast, constricted by the narrowness of their own rooms. Therefore, go forth and find delight in traveling.
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Patience is most fitting: Those who meet hardship with strong bearing and a patient countenance are in the minority. But we must consider this, though it may seem obvious: if you or I will not be patient, then what else is there for us to do? Do you have an alternative solution? Do you know of any provision that is better than patience? Those that achieve greatness have to surmount an ocean of difficulties and hardships before finally achieving success. Know that each time you escape a difficulty you will have to face another. This is the way of the nobel minded: they face difficultues with firm resolution, and they wrestle hardship to the ground. Have the patience of one who is confident of forthcoming ease, and of one who knows that there will be a good ending. Have patience, no matter what the difficulty and no matter how dark the road ahead seems. For truly, with patience comes victory, and with difficulty relief follows close behind. After having red biographies of some successful people from the past, I became amazed at the amount of patience they displayed, at their ability to bear heavy burdens only to emerge as stronger human beings. Hardship feel upon their heads like the lashing of freexing rain and yet they were as firm as mountains. And then, after a short time had passed, they were rewarded for their patience with success.
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Do not carry the weight of the globe on your shoulders? In a certain class of people there rages an internal war, one that doesnt take place on the battlefield, but in one's bedroom, one's office, one's own home. It is a war that results in ulcers or an increase in blood pressure. Everything frustrates these people: they become angry at inflation, furious bcs the rains came late, and exasperated when the value of their currency falls. They are forever perturbed and vexed, no matter what the reason. My advice to you is this: do not carry the weight of the globe on your shoulders. Let the ground carry the burden of those things that happen. Some people have a heart that is like a sponge, absorbing all kinds of fallacies and misconceptions. It is troubled by the most insignificant of matters; it is the kind of heart that is sure to destroy its possessor. Those who are principled and are upon the true path are not shaken by hardship; instead, hardship helps to strengthen their resolve and faith. But the reverse is true for the weak-hearted: when they face adversity or trouble, it is only their level of fear that increases. At a time of calamity, there is nothing more beneficial to you than having a brave heart. The one who has such a heart is self-possessed - he has firm faith and coor nerves. On the other hand, during the course of any given day, the coward slaughters himself many times with apprehensions and presentiments of impending doom. Therefore, if you desire for yourself a stable life, face all situations with bravery and perseverance. Be more resolute than your circumstances and more ferocious than the winds of calamity. May mrecy descend upon the weak-hearted, for how often it is that they are shaken by the smalled of tremors.
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Do not be crushed by what is insignificant: Many are those that are distressed not by pressing matters of great import, but by minor trifles. Observe the Hyprocrites and how weak they are in their resolution. Their principal concerns are for their stomachs, cars, houses and castles. They never once raise their eyes to a life of ideals and virtues; the extend of their knowledge is their cars, clothes, shoes and food. Some people are distressed day aand night, bcs of a disagreement with their spouse, son, or relative, or bcs they have had to forbear criticism, or bcs of some other trivial event. Such are the calamities of these people. They have no aspiration to higher principles or goals to keep them busy, and they have no noble amition in their lives to an end for which they can strive day and night. It has been said "when water leaves a container, it is then filled with air". Therefore, reflect on that which gives you cause for concern or anxiety, and ask yourself this: does it merit your energies and toils? This is an indispensable question, bcs whatever it is that causes your anxiety, you are, with mind, flesh, and blood, giving it energy and time. And if it does not merit your energy and time, you will have squandered a great deal of your most precious resources. Psychologists say tha tyou should judge everything in proportion to its true value and then put it in its proper place. So give to each situation according to its size, weight, measure and importance. And stay away from immoderation or from exceeding the proper bounds. Therefore, do not be preoccupied with matters that are insignificant. If you follow this advice, you will find most of your worries will have left you.
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Be contect with that which God has given you and you will be the richest of people: Appearance, wealth, children, house and talents - you must be contect with your share of these things. Some people are poor, they do not have beautiful houses or nice cars. Yet, despite these disadvantages, they led fruitful lives, and they benefited mankind, not by some miracle, but bcs they used all that they were given, and spent their time in the correct way. Hence, they were blessed in their lives, their time, and their talents. On the contrary, there are many people who have been bestowed with wealth, children, and all forms of blessings, yet these blessings have been the very reason for their misery and ruin. They deviated from what their inborn instincts were telling them, namely, that material things are not everything. Look at those that have been obtained degrees from world-renowned universities and yet they are paragons of obscurity. Their talents and abilities remain unused. Meanwhile, others who are limited in the scope of their knowledge have managed to make mountains out of what they have been given, benefiting both themselves and society. If you are a seeker of happiness, be satisfied with the looks God has favored you with, with your family situation, with the sound of your voice, with the level of your understanding, and with the amount of your salary. Certain educators go further than this by saying that you should imagine being contented with even less that you actually have now. Your value is in your abilities, good deeds, manners and contributions to society. Do not feel grief, then, over that which has passed you by in life in terms of good looks, wealth, or family; and be content with what God has allotted for you.
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Both your conscience and your faith demand that you be just, which means that you should neither exaggerate nor understate, neither go into excess nor do too little. And whoever seeks happiness should be just, regardless of whether he is in an angry, a sad, or a joyful mood. Exaggeration in our dealings with others is unacceptable. The best course is the middle course and whoever follows his desires will likely magnify the importance of any given situation, always making a big deal out of nothing. He will feel jealousy and malice towards others. Since he lives in a world of exaggeration and imagination, he will envisage everyone else to be against him, even to the extent that he feels others to be always conspiring to destroy him. Because of this, he lives under a dark cloud, constantly overcome by fear and apprehension, and what you fear will happen in the future does not end up taking place. Here is something you should try: when you fear something, imagine that the worst possible outcome takes place, and then train yourself to feel prepared and contented with that outcome. If you do this, you will find that you have saved yourself from apprehensions and superstitions that would otherwise have caused you much grief. Lend your attention to each matter in proportion to its importance. In any given situation do not exaggerate mountains from molehills; rather, keep in mind your objectivity and fairness. Do not follow false suspicion or the deceitful illusion of the mirage, but be balanced.
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Being sad is not encouraged in your faith: Sadness enervates the soul's will to act and paralyzes the body into inactivity. Sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart benefits nothing through grief. The most beloved thing to the your enemies is to make you sad in order to complicate your life path. Grief is coupled with anxiety if you are not patient. If the bad feeling related to what is going to happen in the future, then one is feeling anxiety. And if they case of this feeling concerns the past, then one is feeling grief. Both of them weaken the heart, causing inactivity and a decrease in will power. Despite what has been mentioned above, grief may sometimes be both inevitable and necessary, and those who are afflicted with grief in this life, just as they were afflicted with other forms of hardship, both of which were out of their control. So whenever one is overcome by grief and there is no way to avoid it, one is rewarded, bcs grief is a form of hardship, and the one who has faith will be rewarded. Nonetheless, the believer must ward off grief with supplication and other practical means. There are some people who were not praised for their grief in itself, but for what that grief indicated and pointed to - namely, strong faith. The good thing about grief is that which stems from missing out an opportunity to do a good deed or from performing a sin. How could you have been continually in frief when God had informed you that you will be forgiven for everything and had protected you from feeling grief over matters pertaining to this life. There is no doubt that sadness is a trial and a hardship, and is in some ways similer to sickness. However, its not a stage, level, or condition that the pious should actively seek out. You are required to seek the means of happiness and peace, to ask God to grand you a good life, one that gives you a clear conscience and a mind at peace. And we ask God to open our hearts to the light of faith, to guide our hearts to His straight path, and to save us from a miserable and wretchled life.
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Smile: Laughing moderatly can act as a cure or as therapy for depression and sadness. It has a strong influence on keeping the soul light and the heart clear. Laughing is an effcacious way to achieve comfort and light heartedness, but keep in mind that as in othe things, you should not be immoderate. People would hold in high esteem a person who was known for his smile and laughter. They believed this to be a sign of generous personality and of a person who has a noble disposition and clear mind. The truth is that the principles of faith are based on moderation and on good measure, whether it is in matters of belief ,worship, manners, or conduct. Faith does not condone a rigid, frowning expression, nor does it condone a constant playful giddiness; rather what is does promote is seriousness when it is called for, and a reasonable level of light-heartedness when it is called for. People who are always smiling not only make their own lives more joyful, but what is more, they are more prodcutive people in their work and have a greater ability to live up in their responsibilites. They are more prepared to face difficulties and to find expedient solutions for them. They are prolific workers who benefit themselves and others. If I were given a choice between having status in society and plentiful money, and between having a happy, radiantm smiling self, I would choose the latter. For what is great wealth if it begets misery? And what is high position if what comes with it is constant gloominess? And what good is the most beautiful wife is she transforms her house into a living hell? Much better than her - a thousand times at least - is a wife who has not reached such a pinnacle of beauty, but nonetheless has made her house a kind of paradise. Consider this imaginery: In a sense, the rose is smiling and so is the forest. The oceans, rivers, the sky, the stars and birds are all smiling. Similarly, the human being by his very nature is a smiling entity, were it not for those things that counteract this natural disposition, such as greed and selfishness, evils that contribute to his frowning. As such he is an anomaly and at odds with the natural harmony of all that surrounds him. Therefore, the person whose heart is sullied can not see things as they truly are. Every person sees the world through himself, through his actions, thoughts, and motives. So if our actions are noble, if our thoughts are pure, and if our motives are honorable, then the spectacles through which we see the world will be clean, and the world will be seen by us as it really is a beautiful creation. If the sepctacles become dirty, and their lenses stained, then everything will seem to be black and morbid. There are those souls that are able to turn every thing into misery, whilst there are those that are able to derive happiness from the most difficult of circumstances. There is the woman whose eyes fall upon nothing but mistakes. Today is black bcs a piece if fine china broke or bcs the cook put too much salt in the food. Then she flares up and curses, and no one in the house escapes from her execrations. Then there is the man who brings misery upon his self and, through his disposition, heaps the same upon others. Any word that he hears he interprets in the worst possible way. He is affected gravely by the most insignificant of things that occur to him, or that have occured to him through his actions. he is drawn into misery by profits lost, by profits expected that went unrealized, and so on. The whole world from his perspective is black, and so he blackens it for those around him. Such people have much ability to over-exaggerate the trifles that occur to them. Thus they make mountains out of molehills. Their ability to do well is negligent, and they are never happy or ontecnt with that which they have, even if what they have is plenty. No matter how great their possessions, they will never feel any blessings from what they have. Life is like an art of a science: it needs to be learned and cultivated. It is much better for a person to plant love in his life than to glorify money, using all his might to help it ease its way into his pocket or into his account. So what is life when all its energies are exploited and used for the sole purpose of accumlating wealth, an existence where no energy is directed towards the cultivation of beauty, splendor and love? Most peole do not open their eyes to the beauty of life, but open them only to gold or silver. They pass by a luch and luxuriant garden, a beautiful bed of roses, a flowing river, or a group of singing birds, yet they are unmoved by such scenes. All that moves them is the coming and going of money into or out of their pockets. Money is but a means to a happy life. They have reversed this fact, have sold their happy existence and have made money to be an end in itself. Our body has been equipped with eyes to see beauty with, yet we have trained them to look on nothing but money. Nothing causes the soul or the face to frown more often and with more intensity than despondency. If you want to be a smiling person, wage war with despondency and hopelessness. The door to opportunity is always open to you and to others, and so is the door to success. So indoctrinate your mind with hopes of prosperity in the future. If you believe that you are inconsequential and have been created for things of only minor importance, then your achievement in life will never surpass the initial goal. And if you believe that your calling in life is to achieve extraordinary feats, you will feel in you a determination that can destroy all kind of barriers. This can be exemplified as follows. As whoever enters a 100m race will feel tired the moment he completes it, whereas anyone that enters a 400m race, will not feel fatigue after passing the 100m or 200m mark. Therefore the soul gives resolution and will power in proportion to your goal. Hence you must identify your goal, and let it be high and difficult to achieve. And never feel despondency as long as every day you are taking a new step in its direction. So what blocks the soul, making it frown and placing it in a dark prison? The answer is despondency, hopelessness, seeing everything as being evil, searching for faults in others and constantly speaking about the evilness of the world. Blessed is the one who has a teacher that helps him to develop his natural abilities and broaden his horizons. The best teacher is the one that instills kindness and generosity into his pupil, and teachers that the noblest of pursuits that one can strive for, is to be a source of goodness to others, in accordance with one's abilities. The soul should be like the sun, radiating light and hope. The heart should be filled with tenderness, virtue, benevolence, and a genuine love for spreading goodness to all those that are connected to it. The smiling soul sees difficulties and loves to surmount them. As when it seems problems, it smiles, reveling in the opportunity to solve and overcome them. The frowning soul, when faced with a problem, magnifies it and beliffles its own determintation, while spending all its time justifying. It loves success in life, but is not willing to pay its price. On every path, it sees a grinning lion. It waits only for gold to shower down upon it, or to chance upon some treasure in thr ground. Difficult things in life are only relative, for everything is difficult for the ordinary person while there is no great difficulty for the remarkable person. So while the remarkable person increases in worthiness by overcoming obstacles, the weak person increases in meanness by running away from them. Problems are comparable to a vicious dog. As when it sees you scared or running away, it barks and follows in pursuit. However, when it sees your scorn, your lack of concern, and when you shine your eyes in its direction, it gives way and draws back. Furthermore, there is nothing more deadly than a feeling of inferiority, a feeling that makes its holder lose all faith in his adequacy. So when he embarks upon a porject, he is immediately doubtful of its c ompletion or success and he acts accordingly by gratofying these doubts. Thus he fails. Having self-confience is a moble virtue, and is a pillar of success in life. It is important to note, though, that there is a vast difference between conceitedness and confidence. Conceitedness means to rely upon a deceitful imagination and false pride. Confidence means to reply upon true abilities; it means fulfilling responsibilities, developing talents and organizational skills. How much in need we indeed are of a smile, a friendly face, easy going manners, and a gentle, generous soul.
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Smile - Pause to reflect: If you experienced sadness yesterday, your situation didnt get any better by you being sad. Your son failed in school, and you became depressed, yet did your depression change the fact that he failed? Your father passed away, and you became downhearted, yet did that bring him back to life? You lost your business, and you became saddened. Did this change your situation by transforming losses into profits? Dont be sad: You became despondent due to a calamity, and by doing so, created additional calamities. You became depressed bcs of poverty and this only increased the bitterness of your situation. You became gloomy bcs of what your enemies said to you; by entering into that mental state, you unwittingly helped tham in their attack against you. You became sullen bcs you expected a particular misfortune, and yet it never same to pass. Dont be sad: Truly a large mansion will not protect you from the effects of depression; and neither will a beautiful wife, abundant wealth, a high position or brilliant children. Dont be sad: Sadness causes you to imagine poison when you are really looking at pure water. to see cactus when you are looking at a rose, to see a barren desert when you are looking at a lush garden, and to feel that you are in an unbearable prison when you are living on a vast and spacious earth. Dont be sad: You have 2 eyes, 2 ears, lips, 2 hands, 2 legs, a tongue, a heart, peace, safety and a healthy body. Dont be sad: You have a house to live in, bread to eat, water to drink, clothes to wear, why then the melancholy?
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The blessing of pain: Pain is not always a negative force and it is not something that you should always hate. At times a person benefits when he feels pain. You might remember that, at times when you felt a lot of pain, you sincerely supplicated and remembered God, and if you see the student while he is studying, he often feels tha pangs of heavy burden, sometimes perhaps the burden of monotony, yet the eventually leaves this stage o flife a scholar. He felt burdened with pain at the beginning but he shined at the end. The aches and pangs of passion, the poverty and the scorn of others, the frustration and anger at injustice - these all cause the poet to write flowing and captivating verses. This is bcs he himself feels pain in his heart, in his nerves, and in his blood, and as a result, he is able to infuse the same emotions, via his work, into the hearts of others. How many painful experiences did the best writers have to undergo, experiences that inspired brilliant works, works that posterity continues to enjoy and benefit from today. The student who lives the life of comfort and repose and who is not stung by hardships, or who has never been afflicted with calamity will be an unproductive, laxy, and lethargic person. Indeed, the poet who knows no pain and who has never tasted bitter disappointment will invariably produce heaps upon heaps of cheap words. This is bcs his words pour forth from his tongue and not from his feelings or emotion, and though he may comprehend what he has written, his heart and body have not lived the experience. More worthy and relevant to the aforementioned examples are the lives of the early believers, who lived during the period of revelation and who took part in the most important religious revolution that mankind has ever seen. Indeed, they had greater faith, nobler hearts, more truthful tongues, and deeper knowledge than those came after them: they had all of these bcs they lived through pain and suffering, both of which are necessary concomitants to great revolutions. They left the pains of hunger, of poverty, of rejection, of abuse, of banishment from home and country, of abandonment of all pleasures, of the paints of wounds, and of death and torture. They were in truth chosen ones, the eleite of mankind. They were models of purity, nobleness, and sacrifice. In the history of the world there are those that have produced their greatest works due to the pain and the suffering that they experienced. So, do not become excessively anxious when you think of pain, and do not fear suffering. It might well be that through pain and suffering you will become stronger. And furthermore, for you to live with a burning and passionate heart that has been stung is purer and nobler than to live the dispassionate existence of a person who has a cold heart and a shortsighted outlook. The words of a passionate sermon can reach the innermost depths of the heart and penetrate the deepest regions of the soul, usually bcs the one who gives such sermons has himself experienced pain and suffering. I have read books filled with sermons that do not shake a hair on the body of the listener and that lack an atom's weight of impact. The orator (whose sermons were put to print) is not speaking with feeling and sentiment, or in other words, pain and suffering. If you wish to affect and influence others, whether it is with your speech or with your poetry, or even with your actions, you must first feel the passion inside of you. You must be moved by yourself by the meanings of what you are trying to convey. Then, and then only, you will come to realize that you have an influence upon others.
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The blessing of knowledge: Knowledge is a light that leads to wisdon. It is life for one's soul and fuel for one's character. Happiness and high-spiritedness come with enlightenment, bcs through knowledge, one may fulfill his goals and discover what was previously hidden from him. The soul, by its very nature, longs for the acquisition of new knowledge to stimulate it and the mind. Ignorance is boredom and grief, bcs the ignorant person leads a life that never offers anything new or mind provoking. Yesterday is like today, which in turn is like tomorrow. If you desire happiness, then seek out knowledge and enlightenment, and you will find that anxiety, depression, and grief will leave you. Therefore, if someone is ignorant, let him not be proud of either his wealth or his status in society: his life is lacking in meaning and his achievements are woefully incomplete.
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The art of happiness: Among the greatest of blessings is to have a calm, stable, and happy heart. For in happiness the mind is clear, enabling one to be a productive person. It has been said that happiness is an art that needs to be learned. And if you learn it, you will be blessed in this life. But how does ont learn it? A basic principle of achieving happiness is having an ability to endure and to cope with any situation. Therefore, you should neither be swayed nor governed by difficult circumstances, nor should you be annoyed by insignificant trifles. Based on the purity of the heart and its ability to endure, a person will shine, when you train yourself to be patient and forbearing, then hardship and calamity will be easy for you to bear. The opposite of being contect is being shortsighted, being concerned for no one but one's own self and forgetting about the world and all that is in it. It is as if such people see themselves as being the whole universe, or at least at the center of it. They think not of others, nor do they live for anyone but themselves. It is incumbent upon you and I to take time out to be preoccupied with more than just us, and to sometimes distance ourselves from our own problems in order to forget our wounds and hurts. By doing this we gain two things: we make ourselves happy, and we bring joy to others. Basic to the art of happiness is to bridle our thoughts and to restrain them, not allowing them to wander, stray, escape, or go wild. For if you were to leave your thoughts to wander as they wish, then they will run wild and control you. They will open the catalogue of your past woes. They will remind you of the history of your misfortunes, beginning from the day that your mother gave you birth. If your thoughts are left to roam, then they will bring to you images of past difficulties and images of a future that is frightening. These thoughts will shake your very being and will cause your feelings to flare. Therefore bridle them, and restrain them by directing them to the concentrated application of the kind of serious thought that begets fruitful and beneficial work. Also among the principle of the art of happiness is to value life on this earth according to its true merit and worth. This life is frivolous and does not warrant anything from you except that you turn away from it. This life is filled with calamities, aches, and wounds. If that is the description of this life, then how can one be unduly affected by its minor calamities, and how can one grieve over such material things as have passed him by? The best moments of life are tainted, its future promises are mere mirages, the successful ones in it are envied, the one who is blessed is constantly threatened, and lovers are struck down by some unexpected misfortune. You should go one step further and say that happiness is acquired by assuming it. It is acquired by constantly smiling, by hunting the reasons that make one happy, and even by forcing it onto one's own self, however awkward that may seem. One does all of these things until happiness becomes second nature. The truth of the matter is that you ca nnot remove from yourself all remnants of grief. And the reason for this is that life was created as a test. But the message I wish to convey to you is that you should as much as possible reduce the amount and intensity of your grief. So when a person knows the nature of this world and its qualities, he comes to realize that it is dry, deceitful and unworthy; and he comes to fully understand that is its nature and its description. If the description of this world is as I have described it to be, then it is worthy of intelligent person not to help it in its onslaught, nor to surrender to depression and anxiety. As what we should do is to defent ourselves from all feelings that may spoil our lives, in a war that we must wage with all the strength that we have been enowed with.
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The art of happiness - Pause to reflect: Do not be sad. If you are poor, then someone else in immersed in debt. If you do not own your own means of transportation, then someone else has been deprived of his legs. If you have reason to complain concerning the pains of sickness, then someone else has been bedridden for years. And if you have lost a child, then someone else has lost many children, for instance, in a single car accident. Do not be sad, bcs if you are, you disturb your soul and heart, and you prevent yourself from sleeping.
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Controlling one's emotions: Emotions flare up for 2 reasons: either for joy of for inner pain. Therefore, when one contains his emotions upon both the joyful and the calamitous occasion, he is likely to achieve peace and tranquility, happiness and comfort, and the taste of truimph over his own self. God descrived man as being exultant and boastful, irritable, discontented when evil touches him, and niggardly when good touches him. The exceptions, God informed us, are those who remain constant in prayer. For they are on a middle path in times of both joy and sorrow. They are thankful during times of ease and are patient during times of hardship. Unbridled emotions can greatly wear a person out, causing pain and loss of sleep. If such a person becomes angry, he flares up, threatens others, loses all self control, and surpasses the boundaries of justice and balance. Meanwhile, if he becomes happy, he is in a state of rapture and wildness. In his intoxication of joy, he forgets himself and surpasses the bounds of modesty. If he renounces and relinquiches the company of others, he disparages them, forgetting their virtues while stamping out their good qualities. On the other hand, if he loves others, then he spares no pains in according them all forms of veneration and honor, portraying them as being the pinnacles of perfection. One wise man said (Love the one who is beloved to you in due moderation, for perhaps the day will come when you will abhor him. And hate the one whom you detest in due moderation, for perhaps the day will arrive when you will come to love him". So when a person curbs his emotions, when he controls his mind, and when to each matter he gives according to the weight of its importance, he will have taken a step towards wisdom and true understanding. Faith sometimes come as much with balance in morals, manners, and dealings as it did with its straightforward, holy, and truthful way of life. Being just is an end that is called for both manners and in matters of jurisprudence. In fact, faith is founded on truth and justice - truthfulness in all that we learn from relealed texts, and justice in rulings, sayings, actions, and manners.
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Repel boredom from your life: One who lives a life of repetition and routine will almost inevitably become a victim of boredom, especially since man by his very nature tries from a lack of change. For this reason, God gave us variety in times and places, in food and drink - diversity in the many forms of creation: night and day, valley and mountain, white and black, hot and cold, shade and sun, sweet and sour. There are deeds of the heart, of the tongue, of the limbs, and of wealth, by spending it for a good cause. If you desire relaxation, vitality, and continued productivity, then bring diversity into your work, your readin, and your daily life. Distribute your time between enjoying what is lawful, from visiting friends, entertaining guests, playing sports, or going on excursions: you will find yourself to be a lively and bright person, bcs the soul delights in variety and things that are new.
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Cast off anxiety: "DO NOT BE SAD". This message embraces all those who carry the truth, who see the light, and who tread the path of guidance. There is a truth that causes the heart to be opened and a falsehood that causes it to harden. So the acceptance of and adherence to the Faith is a goal that can not be achieved except by the one who is blessed. DONT BE SAD. Live today as if it were the last day of your life, with this framce of mind and outlook towards life, you have no reason to allow sadness or anger to steal the little time you have. In other words, life with heart, body, and soul for today only, without dwelling upon the past and without being anxious about the future. "The past is lost forever, and that which is hoped for is from the unseen. So all that you have is the present hour". Being preoccupied with the past and dragging past woes into the present - these are the signs of an unstable and unsound mind. A Chinese proverb reads: "Do not cross the bridge until you reach it" In other words, be anxious over events only when they come to pass. How can one truly live who carries with him the concerns of the past, the present, and the future? How can one find peace, while constantly recollecting that which has already occurred? One plays a past event back in his mind, feels its pain, and yet benefits nothing from the process. The meaning of "when the morning comes, do not expect to see the evening, and when the evening comes, do not expect to see the morning" is that we should not have lofty or long term hopes for this world. Expect death and do your best in doing good deeds. Do not let your concerns and ambitions surpass the limit of that day in which you live, a code that will allow you to concentrate and spend all of your energies on being productive each day. Use time efficiently and concentrate all of your efforts on achieving something today, by imporoving your manners, taking care of your health, and imporoving your relations with others.
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Cast of anxiety - Pause to reflect: Do not be sad, for that which has been preordained has already been decided upon and will take place though you may not like it. The pens have dried, the scrolls have been rolled up, and every affair is firmly established. Therefore, your sadness will not change your reality in the least. Do not be sad, bcs with your sadness, you desire for time's suspension: for the sun to stop in its place, for the hands of the clock to stand still, for the steps of your feet to move backwards, and for the river to flow back to its source. Do not be sad, bcs sadness is like a hurricane that violently tosses the waves, changing the atmospher and destroying the blooming flowers of the luxuriant garden. Do not be sad, bcs the one who is sad is likke a person who pours water into a bucket that has a hole in it. He is like a writer who uses his finger to write on water. Do not be sad, bcs the true span of life is measured by the number of days in which you are content. Do not then spend your days in grief, do not waste your nights in sorrow, and do not be extravagant in squandering your time; for truly, God loves not those who are extravagant and wasteful. Do not be sad, for in truth, your Lord forgives sins and accepts repentance.
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Do not be sad - Everything will occur according to pre-ordainment: Everything occurs according to preordaniment and according to what has been decreed. "If you ask, then ask of God, and if you seek help, then it from God. And know that if the whole of the nation were to rally together in order to bring benefit to you in anything, they would not benefit you except with that which God has written for you. And if they were to gather together in order in inflict harm upon you with something, they would not harm you except with that which God has written upon you. The pens have been raised and the pages have dried".
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Do not be sad, and wait patiently for happy outcome. The morning of the afflicted is looming, so watch for it. And as they said "If the rope becomes too tight, it will snap". In other words, if a situation reaches the level of crisis, then expect a light and an opening to appear. Know that, truly, with hardship there is relief. Some eyes are restless while others are in sleep, in meditating that which may or may not occur, so leave worrying as much as possible. As carrying the burdens of anxiety is madness. Try to have faith that will provide you with solutions to yesterday, and will similary provide for what is to come tomorrow. Let events flow in their predestined path, and do not sleep except with a clear mind. Between the period of the blinking of the eye and its opening, Faith changes things from one state to another.
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Do not worry about your wealth that is stored in vaults. Unless you have a good faith, your high castles and your green gardens will only bring your worry, grief, and hopelessness. Do not be sad: even the diagnosis of the doctor and his medicine can not make you happy if you have allowed sadness to dewell in your heart, letting it permeate your emotions and your existence. Do not be sad: you have the ability to supplicate to God and thus exccel at humbling yourself at the doorstep of the Him. Do not be sad: God has created for you the earth and what is in it. He has caused gardens of beauty to grow, filling them with many kinds of plants and flowers in pairs, both male and female. And He has made tall palm trees, shining stars, forests, rivers and streams - yet you are sad ! Do not be sad: you drink water that is pure, you breathe fresh air, you walk upon your two feet in health, and you sleep the evenings in peace.
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Do not grieve over the hurt that is lnflicted upon you by others, and forgive those that have ill-treated you. The price of jealousy and rancor is enormous; it is the price that the revengeful person pays in exchange for his malice towards others. He pays with his heart, flesh, and blood. His peace, his relaxation, and his happiness - these he forsakes bcs he desires the sweetness of revenge and bcs he presents others. Jealousy and rancor are illnesses for which od has given the cure and remedy. Do not grieve over that which has passed you by in life, for indeed you have been blessed with much. Contemplate the many favors and gifts that God has bestowed upon you and be thankful to Him for them. Remind yourself of God's many blessings. Life, health, the faculties of hearing and seeing, two hands and two legs, water, air, food - these are some of the more visible blessings in the world, while the greatest of all blessings is that the Faith you must have to feed your soul. If someone offered you large sums of money in return for your eyes, your ears, your legs, your hands, or your heart, what would you say to him? How great is your wealth in reality? By not being thankgul, you do not render justice to God's countless favors.
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Tell me about the worries of this life? They are status, prestige, fame, income, wealth, mansions, and children. These things will leave you if you die. Count your life by wonderful things you are making, not by fame or wealth.
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Idleness is destructive, and most people who suffer from worries and anxieties are the same people who are idle and inactive. Rumors and gossip are the only dividends for those that are bankrupt of meaningful and fruitful work. Apply yourself to something and work hard at it. Read, write, visit friends, and benefit from your time. In short, do not give a single minute away to idleness. the day that you do will be the day that anxieties and worries will find their way into your life. Superstiton and evil whispers will enter your mind, allowing you to become a playground for the games of the devil. Do not grieve over the person who forgets or denies the favors you once gave him, for your desire should be solely for the reward of God, then why are you doing good favors to people, are you looking for fame? Perform righteous deeds purely and sincerely for the pleasure of God, and do not expect either congratulation or gratitude from any person. Do not take it to heart if you confer a favor upon someone and he then turns out to be ungrateful, showing no sign of appreciation for what you have done. Seek your reward from God. Make your dealings with God alone, as He is the One who rewards people for good deeds. He gives and He bestowss, or He punishes and He takes to account, being pleased with those who do well and angry with those who do evil. They said "A pious person fed the best and finest of food to a blind man. His family said to him "This blind man does not know what he is eating, so give him something of lower quality". He replied "But God knows!". Since God knows your deeds, knows of the good you do and the help you give to others, remain carefree and untroubled about what people think.
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Listen to these words of wisdom: If you don't have an objective in life, any cause could be one . There is always one who suffers more than you do, so you should be optimistic. A man will continue acting like a child until his mother"s death, then he will age in a sudden. When you love your enemy is when he feels of his emptiness. If you have been betrayed from behind the scene, then you should be proud because you are the only one who is in front . The soft words are more powerful than the naked truth. We are all like the bright moon, we still have our darker side. Don't challenge someone whao has nothing to loose. The eye which doesn't know the meaning of tears, it doesn't know anything of value. If the loser keeps his smile the winner will loose the thrill of victory. No benefit of a right without a left. The panic from a catastrophe is another catasrtophe. The smile is a famous word without letters. Be cheerful when gettin-out as when you coming-in. Don't be critic to yor wife's taste, she is the one who selected you at the first place. You can't chase worries flying over your head but you can do preventing them from nesting in your head. Dive with the shark but be ware not to be swallowed. The demeanour will be thrilled in finding out a mistake of his great rival . Every minute of anger will get you one more year older.. Elocution is an art so let listening be a similar art. The gift of gab is a proof of jealousy We have nostalgia for the past because it is gone. If it comes back we would hate it. The one whose ambition is great so his worries. People feel small in the presence of some of the great personality, , yet the greatest is the one who let all around him feel great as well. Chase two birds at the same time and you will loose both. The woman is half the society and the one who educates the other half . For every word their is a listener and probably my words don't suit your ears. So please don't accuse me of being ambiguous. As more higher up one rises to as more clouds and problems will surround him. Don't argue with an ignorant for it will be hard for people to differentiate between you. The failure in planning will lead in planning to failure. The coward will find 36 solutions to his problem but the one will like most is fleeing. Better set your path with a smile than with a sword. If you listen to the telltale you will lose the friend. Better being a cub in the family of Lions than being a king of the ostriches.
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Jackson Brown originally wrote Life's Little Instruction book as a gift for his son who was leaving home to begin his freshman year in college. Brown says, "I read years ago that it was not the responsibility of parents to pave the road for their children but to provide a road map, and I wanted to provide him with what I had learned about living a happy and rewarding life." Life's Little Instruction Book is a guidebook that gently points the way to happiness and fulfillment. The observations are direct, simple, and as practical as an umbrella. "Most of us already know how to live a successful and purposeful life," says Brown. "We know we should be more understanding and thoughtful, more responsible, courageous and appreciative. It's just that we sometimes need reminding." Life's Little Instruction Book is that reminder and the perfect gift for students, relatives, or a friend who needs encouragement at any time of the year. A New York Times #1 bestseller for 50 weeks, it is translated into 33 languages and continues to inspire readers throughout the world. This title is available in three separate volumes or in one book collection, The Complete Life's Little Instruction Book. Sample Entries: 1. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen every day. 2. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. 3. Think big thoughts, but relish small pleasures. 4. Overtip breakfast waitresses. 5. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all they have. 6. Never resist a generous impulse. 7. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know. 8. Never go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink. 9. Leave everything a little better than you found it. 10. Call your mother
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