New here
04/29/2011 at 08:11 AM

Hello, everybody!

I'm new here, but not to homeschooling.

I have 4 kiddos; ages 9, 7, 4, and 2.

I work full-time as a Phlebotomist during the week and we school at night and on the weekends and daddy helps out during the day as well (he works third shift).

Hopefully I'll be able to quit soon so we can school more regularly, but for now that is how it is.

My oldest has mild intellectual disability and learning disabilities so that is a challenge all in and of itself.

Just wanted to introduce myself before I started chiming in!

Do you have children?


She feels “abandoned”? History is comfort, but not a solid foundation to rebuild a lasting relationship upon. When a family member is so gravely ill, it is time for family to come together and support one another. The support you have given your brother has put an unnecessary strain on your relationship. Here you have placed your life on hold to help your mother and brother, only to be told that your sacrifice is wrong. This is not the type of person I would want to spend the rest of my life with.


Cont. In light of the situation, whether you’re married tomorrow, or five years from now should not matter. Once the ring is placed on her finger, nothing changes. Life is full of struggles and challenges. The person you decide to share the rest of your life with should be your biggest supporter in such situations, not someone who wishes to place yet another undue strain upon you. Good luck to you and your family. I truly hope that your brother will fully recover and go on to live a long and healthy life.


Your mother and brother need you to be there for you at this time and if your girlfriend can't see this then I feel that she is being very selfish. Perhaps she could put herself into your shoes and explore how she would feel if it was a member of her own family who needed this care. I know you love her and feel she loves you, but unless she can be less selfish then I don't think your relationship is going to work anyway.
Hope your brother recovers soon.