MIL Problem
01/08/2011 at 06:32 AM

Need help/opinions!!My MIL is driving me insane. We have three small children a 3 yr old boy and twin 1.5 yr old girls. She and I have fought many time about the kids. She will call and ask just for our son and he is to the age where he does not want to go. Or he wants his sisters to come along. We asked him if he wanted to go and he said only if his sisters could. Then that started a wat. She said (of course) that she was not going to take all 3. She lives 15 mintues from us and may have the kids for a total of 2 hrs a month. But yet she gets mad when her sister watches the kids for us to go out or pretty much anytime we ask. When we ask my MIL she always has plans. She send me a text just a few days ago saying that I am just mean because I dont force my son to spend time with her. I know that it is important for him to know that there are other people who love and care for him..and he does. But when it come to staying with her he cries and just doesent want to do it. Its not like that with anyone else. I know that she is not mean to him. When she was told that we werent making him go she replied well the next time he doesnt want to pick up his toys you cant make him because he doesnt want to. In the same text as all that she tells me that I am nothing to her and that she has no good feelings for me. Then sends her son one saying that she hopes that he is happy. Heres the thing. She has txted my husband and asked for the kids to go to her house for the day. What should I do? I just want to say no. I just feel that if she has those negative feelings about me I dont want her saying anything of the sort in front of my children. My children will have their own opinion of me they dont need her imput. I am just at a loss. This is not the first blow up. When our son was just a few months old she spit on my car windsheild because my son had been crying in her home and she was holding him. She couldnt get him to calm down because he wanted me and was sleepy. So I took him. I felt as if I had given her plenty of time to try. So I told my husband that it was time to go because when I walked my son into another room I heard her call me a b***ch. So we left and she didnt like it so she spit on my car because I wouldnt get out. I just dont know what to do. I do not want to try and force her to "like" me but at the same time I am not sure if it is emotionally stable for them. Any help would be great.

Oh wait, it isn't under general parenting, it's under family relationships.

Ignore this.

I must have been sleepwalking. : )


Or, sleep posting! Have a great day!!!

(Though there are lots of steparenting posts that are started in categories other than stepparenting.)