Preschool - FamilyEducation
08/11/2012 at 15:43 PM

I need help. I really don't know where to turn or what to do. My son just turned 4 and has always been "ahead of the curve" and hit all developmental milestones ahead of most kids his age. He is really pretty smart (he's reading, doing 48 pc puzzles, simple math, and has a pretty extensive vocabulary) and is very athletic (swimming, soccer, t-ball, etc). He corrects me (or teases me!) when I make mistakes and is always solving everyone's problems around the house. He's extremely friendly and can charm just about anybody; makes manipulating adults a breeze for him! He can be very affectionate, almost to a fault. His imaginary friend, "little boy" has been with us for about a year now and sometimes there are other "friends" who come hang out for the day....
He was also kicked out of day care last spring because of his constant misbehavior (aggressiveness, defiance, tantrums, swearing). We have been noticing an increase in really intense behavior and acting out. Especially in social situations. He's fine in large groups (at the mall, at a festival/amusement park), but in "social" situations, he appears to lose control and becomes extremely impulsive. We were so worried in fact, that we took him to a children's psychologist to see what was going on with him. On our second visit, he surprised us with an IQ test. Although he didn't finish all parts of the test (he was too distracted; he told me he didn't want to do it anymore because it wasn't "fun" anymore), the dr said he did very, very well, but couldn't give a full scale score because he didn't finish. He said he may be gifted....but offered no support or suggestions to help with his behavior issues. I'm sending him to preschool this year, but I'm terrified we'll have another year like last year. Help! Could he be gifted? What can I do to quell these behavior issues (typical discipline doesn't seem to work!)?

I'd go back to the psychologist and get some specific assignments to help you improve your communication with your boy.