Vacation with family member I do not like-what to do?
10/31/2012 at 07:26 AM

Hello, I am new and looking for help. I will start with the background story: When I was 11 my parents, brother, grandmother and I took a trip to Florida. My grandmother was very controlling and the trip overall was a disaster.

My husband has never been to Florida so we talked about going down sometime next year. My mother and father would also like to go back someday. My husband suggested we go together, the 4 of us. I thought that was a great idea and asked them if they would like to go.

She said she would ask my dad. Yesterday I emailed her a picture of the celebration of lights in Disney and asked if she had talked to my dad. She said she has thought of a way we can ALL go(mom, dad, brother, me and my hubby) but she won't say more until we are all together next month.

I do not want to go with my brother. I wanted this vacation to be the 4 of us. I never said invite my brother, I asked if they (mom and dad wanted to come with us. My brother and I are civil but I do not like him. He is rude, always serious and looks down on all of us. I don't want another trip that should be fun to be ruined because of him. I don't even know why she asked him because they are not close and he has little to do with them.

Would it be rude of me to tell her I don't want him there or to say if he is going then just my husband and I will go another time and they can go together with him? My mother and I close and my husband says I should just tell her I don't want him there. Hubby also does not like him and does not want him there.