please advise
03/31/2014 at 11:52 AM

Long Story..

My FIL and BIL moved in with my wife and I. We have our own child whom is 4 y/o. So we have a full house. My BIL is in high school. My FIL is in his mid 60's. Me and my wife are 30.

They have lived with us for 4 months now after the passing of her mother. Her brother recieves SSI which he spends on computer parts, games and other various things every month over 200 per month. FIL- spends roughly 70 dollars a day on asian food store specialty items. THey do not pay any rent or utilities to us do to "finances". I work 10-12 hours a day. When I come home, there are dishes in the sink, kitchen is a mess, living room has dirty clothes and blankets and other various things scattered and no house work done what so ever. I asked my BIL to mow the lawn and take out trash, amongst other normal chores for someone of his age. He doesnt do them.. And if on the rare occasion he does, he only does it half way. example; clean the kitty litter.. he will empty it but not put the new litter in... my father in law works but 11-7. he will get home after going to the market, at 9am. then sleep and wander around till 10p. I have also opened a business in there previous home to keep there house so, they wouldnt lose it. The agreement was that I would do the opening and get it organized with the direction that they would run it from then forth. so far they have done nothing. and the business is profitable(with in 4 months). I have told my wife that they need to help out or get out. I have had this conversation several times in the past couple of weeks. Yesterday I finally blew up. I was told that my temper was too much and my stress level was too high, that maybe i should stay at my parents for a while and take a break.. Im thinking are you joking? why would i leave my home that I work hard for? especially when the problem isnt me nor would go away if i was to take a mini vaca..I dont want my wife to feel she has to choose between me or her family but it is too much for me and is causing problems between me and her which i know will trickle down to my daughter. Please anyone who can give advise, I need it.