I'm wanting to make peace with my MIL after a very long drawn out argument over my current pregnancy with my 4th child. I have been married for 3 years and my husband and I have one child together and are expecting another over the holidays. My older two daughters were conceived when I was very young (17&18). I have done alot of growing up since being a single mother and I am very happy with where my life has taken me. Now that I am married and happy I want the babies to go with that. We discussed having our first daughter and after she was born had talked frequently about maybe having one more. Finally we made this decision, but we did not tell anyone in either of our families untill we were expecting. My family is happy about this pregnancy but they don't have the means or live close enough to be as supportive as I would like them to be. When my husband told his parents his mother stated that she didn't want another grand child and that three were enough (my oldest two are not biological). She then proceeded to mention every time he talked to her about how embarassed she was to tell anyone, and that we could not afford to buy shoes for four kids or put them through university. She over spends and nothing but the most expensive and best will do, so yes to live by her means we couldnt do that. We have tried to get her to understand that our kids dont need to wear gap clothes or sketchers on their feet. She took over buying them clothes, not because we needed her to but because she said she liked to. I appreciated this very much but put an end to it when she made a comment about how I shouldnt buy my kids clothes because she does. All this built up and I blew up on her and said some things to try to hurt her and I am sure my hormones were wacky early on in pregnancy. I have long ago tried to apologize to her but she refuses to acknowledge this and believes that she said nothing wrong. I wrote to an advice colomist online and it ended up being published in the paper she reads, so now she figures I did this to be vindictive. I am not allowing her to see any of the children because she needs to accept us as a family. She suggests my husband bring the kids and spend time with the family and leave me at home. This hurts alot to think that she can have to disregard for how that makes me feel. I know I shouldnt let her opinion or words affect me but they do. Sometimes I just feel as though I am not good enough and maybe if I just walked away everyone would be happier. I just wish that I could fix things but it seems hopeless. Any advice would be greatly appreaciated. I just feel so alone and wish they could be part of this experience, what is supposed to be a happy time seems to only bring me to tears.