My ex wants to take my daughter
06/06/2010 at 11:19 AM

Ok so my ex has been a deadbeat dad. He owes me over 20,000 in back child support. We had always worked out visitation between. The two of us. I even would drop her off and pick her up so he could visit with her. He has a new girlfriend and they just had a baby. They live in a one bedroom apartment with his two other sons. Lately my daughter hadn't wanted to go and visit him. Through out this time I has left my husband and stayed in a shelter for a little less than a month and got my own place. Since then my husband and I have tried to reconcile. My ex started paying child support in January and now wants to enforce the visitation order. I have been cooperative, but since the whole reason my ex and I split up was because he was abusive he was arrested and convicted I don't feel comfortable giving him and his new girlfriend my address I offered to meet them at the local police station , but he refuses so I gave him my address knowing I was moving in another week. He started asking me for my new address but I wasn't compliant. He text me that he wasn't going to be able to bring her home cause he didn't know my address I text back immediately the same place his girlfriend picked her up. Then he started texting that is not where you live, that my daughter showed his girlfriend where I lived and if he has to go to the apartment complex to get my address he will and that all of the texts were being save for court per his lawyer's advice. I didn't respond he then asked me for clothes he sent home with my daughter I had already explained to his girlfriend I would return those clothes on Sunday when they dropped her off. He proceeded to tell me he should be yelling and raising hell like I did when he forgot her sandals which he never returned. I will admit my husband and I have had our share of problems but are currently workin through them. I have not kept his daugter from him. If I talk to him on the phone and we don't agree he calls me crazy, an idiot, tells me I'm stupid. I tell him to not talk to me like that and he tells me whatever I'm focusing on the wrong stuff. I feel that he is still trying to control me by telling me he is going to take me to court. What should I do? My daughter will now have to spend the entire month of July with him. She has never been away from me longer than 3 days. His new girlfriend even told me that she was my daughter's step mother and that maybe she wanted to spend mothers day with my daughter. I feel helpless I feel that they are just trying to make my life miserable by not letting my daughter attend my graduation this summer because it is in the month of July. I offered to pick her up and drop her off so she could share it with me but they denied my request. His girlfriend told me it's just one graduation that my daughter had missed alot of special moments with them. I feel his girlfriend is over stepping boundaries she should not be. I am remainig calm, but between his treats of court and her misunderstaning of what she is entitle to as his girlfriend. I want to scream!!!