HELP! How do I tell my (divorced) brother and sister-in-law that they are ignoring their child? - FamilyEducation
HELP! How do I tell my (divorced) brother and sister-in-law that they are ignoring their child?
11/10/2011 at 15:14 PM

Hi Everyone,

I'd like to some thoughts on this issue.

My brother and his wife had problems with their marriage at the beginning of this year. They went through a few months of trying to work it out, but eventually called it quits after after being married for only two years. They had actually been dating and living together for around four or five years prior to getting married.

They did have a child before they decided to get married.

Anyhow, they are still living together, because they cannot afford to live apart.

The problem is that they are constantly fighting and don't pay any attention to my three year old niece. My niece is incredibly bright and remembers everything! So, she remembers their fights and all that.

I don't really care how they live their lives except that it's majorly affecting my niece.

My brother doesn't listen to anyone. I am sure that he is depressed, but is too stubborn to accept the fact that he's marriage is over. He actually has a girlfriend, but I'm pretty sure it's a rebound thing.

My former sister-in-law, on the other hand, seems thrilled with her new found freedom and is constantly "working." We live in Las Vegas and she is an independent casino host and promotes for clubs - so she is constantly on her phone.

Again - they can do whatever they want with themselves, but our friends and myself are geniuninely concerned for the well-being and happiness of my niece.

We're thinking about putting a hidden camera in their house to show them how caught up they are with themselves and how much they ignore her.

Thank you so much for your post.

many states are marital property states, meaning that no matter who the breadwinner was when things were bought, the material items and assets purchased during the time of the marriage are equally split during the divorce. He can threaten all he wants, but you are also the mother of his children, so there is also child support as well.
I have been in your shoes, and it is no picnic - I won't lie and tell you it is. But if he is going to be such a bully about things, your children see this. It is up to you to show your children that is not a healthy relationship. There will be some rough times, but you find your kids as the driving force behind your fighting for a future.