I'm 28, how do I go about confronting my mother w/out a fight? - FamilyEducation
I'm 28, how do I go about confronting my mother w/out a fight?
07/17/2012 at 13:56 PM

A little back story, my parents were divorced when I was 15, my mother painted my father out to be the devil pretty much and he was a little over the top at times, but she made him out to be outright evil. So naturally I went with my mother when she left, my brother and sister stayed behind with my dad. As a result any type of relationship I may of had with him was shattered, we don't even speak now. At the time I was too young and naive to see my mother for what she truly is a liar and a thief. Too make a long story short I caught her redhanded stealing from not only me but my sister as well. Now I'm an adult and have children of my own, all she does is habitually lie to me. She honestly thinks my siblings nor I have caught on to her lies or her stealing. I want to confront her and tell her you cause me to shatter any relationship I might of had with my dad, and to repay your gratitude for me being the only child of yours to stick by your side through the divorce you steal money from me and habitually lie to me. I don't know what to do, the woman literally makes me sick to my stomach. She disgusts me.

How much involvement do you have now with her?

Hi, if you want to get along with her you have to forgive her. Most of the work you have to do is on yourself as it seems as though you have a lot of latent anger towards her. From what you say; it is understandable that you would feel that way. But because you let that past influence how you feel now you're feeling the pain a new every time and that is derailing your efforts at making up. If you feel that you have missed out on a relationship with your father then make the first step. Take out a book called 'the power of now' by tolle from the library and read it, it will help and give guidelines for dealing with the past. Good luck, I wish you well!