I don't want to loose my partner - FamilyEducation
I don't want to loose my partner
06/03/2012 at 13:51 PM

My partner of 5 and half years and I have a 2yr old and I found out I was pregnant 3 months ago. He was supportive, as we are both 39 and werent planning anymore children. I cried for 2 days. Well he dropped a bombshell on me last week saying he couldn't do it and wanted out, but would support me through pregnancy and the birth and after with the baby, saying he would only have both children 2 nights a fortnight. This flabbergasted me, cause he had been so romantic and all over me the weekend before. I pested and pested him to tell me why the change and then he told me he had been having affair with someone from another town. As much as this hurts, I still love him and want to try my hardest to fix everything with him including counselling. He says he doesn't love me anymore, but I see him sneak looks at me and know this isn't true. I know he is just pushing me away cause he feels guilty that he hurt me and doesn't want to hurt me anymore. I will do anything to try and keep us together as family. I have told him I still love him and what he did was wrong but we can get through this, but he is continually pushing me away. What should I do, just keep trying and telling him how I feel, or just walk away. I would never forgive him if it came to that, if he didn't try at all.

I am so sorry. I think that you should believe him. He knows how he feels, and I don't see that there is any reason that he would be less than honest with you about his feelings. He cheated, he's sorry about that, you have children to raise together, but he does not love you. Be independent, get on with your life, get counseling for yourself, let him go.

Hello, i am soo sorry to hear this situation. although, its very hard but i definately agree with maya. He really is trying to move forward to whoever hes with.. he is telling all those things to push you away.. he may still care for you and respect and maybe even love you but not in that way anymore.. i think you definitely let him go, its the only way he can determined if he wants to end with you..