My husband & I have been married 22 years. 4 children. The kids participate in a youth type organization (4-H). I know that my husband and his siblings did these sort of activities when they were young. My family is very supportive and helpful when it comes to the 4-H projects by attending the shows or judgings and asking the kids about the projects. However, one day my MIL asked my husband while I was within earshot "Aren't you embarrassed" about the 4-H projects? Mostly she is embarrassed that we purchase the animals...as opposed to what I don't know. I know his parents are older and times have changed. But what it comes down to is this... We have been marrried for 20+ years. The three oldest have graduated in the top 10 in their class. We own our own business and are financially very successful. The children are very successful with the 4-H projects. So when she says this "Aren't you embarrassed?" I take it that she thinks that somehow after 20 years of marriage I would like none other then to embarrass my husband and children. My family would never dream of asking me while my husband was within earshot "Aren't you embarrassed about how his family does XYZ?" My husband doesn't see it this way. But this isn't the first time she has said inflamitory things.
I just wonder why some people are always more interested in driving a wedge then in sharing the joy. The 4-H projects have been a leap pad for other activities which has propelled to wonderful college acceptences. I cannot give high enough praise for our 4-H projects and to be embarrassed by them is beyond baffeling.