I hope someone can give me the advise i am looking for. I am an indian lady (22yrs) married for only a year, I live with my inlaws (mother & father inlaw).
Before i was married my relationship between my mother inlaw and sister inlaw was perfect (but like they say u only a person once you get married). My sister in law (husbands sister) is married for 8 year with 2 kids... she fell pregnant immediately after she got married and now her husband and her find that they need to spend some time alone thus leaving their kids with their grandparents (my mother & father inlaw) every weekend even when their grandparents are not home they will still drop off their kids for my husband i to look after while they go out. I remember a week after i got back from my honeymoon my brother inlaw (sister inlaws hubby) emails me to see if my hubby and i will babysit their kids because they going for a comedy show. The past year has been hell for me as i have these kids screaming, crying and sticking to me as if i am their mother. I just wish my husband and I could enjoy our life and weekends on our own, being together going out inststaed of having to be parents to his sisters children. I want to enjoy my life being a newly wed and not a baby sitter! My husband loves these kids and thus i cannot talk to him about how i feel.
On the other My mother inlaw appears to afraid to talk to her daughter as she always says she "wouldnt want to cause problems between her and her daughter and her daughter will stop speaking to her". which is kind of true, her daughter stops speaking to me so so often for every petty thing and i know if i had to say something it will be biggest problem ever as my mother inlaw will most likely side with her daughter. It gets to me that neither my MIL or sister inlaw will ever thank my husband or I for looking after her children and helping them out. Instead the 2 of them will speak bad of me, my husband always tells me to ignore when they talk alone because my sister inlaw is VERY VERY caniving and will make sure her mother doesnt accept me as her daughter. PLS HELP ME