Teen pregnancy - FamilyEducation
Teen pregnancy
06/24/2008 at 10:43 AM

How should we address this growing issue?

Hey All Here are some great articles we have on teen pregnancy. This covers some facts and information about teen pregnancy in the U.S. http://life.familyeducation.com/pregnancy/teen/57771.html Marti http://www.familyeducation.com/home/
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One child (teenager) at a time.
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Well, I don't think movies like "juno" help the kids... It seems kinda cool when you see it happen to Juno ...
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well i am a teen mother and theres no way really to address this issue cause accidents happen all you can really do is talk to your kids and hope they make the best decisions when they go out in the world i mean its not like you can keep them locked up forever and my son was accidently concieved but hes not a mistake i probably wouldnt know what to do with out him now !!!
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the movie juno is a sad and weird movie i mean i wouldnt be able to give my kid up for adoption but anybody who is a teen and would think that it is a cool thing to be pregnant has issues and their parents probably havent talked to them much and set in the right values ....i mean i always tell my friends DO NOT GET PREGNANT its hard and that movie doesnt show the real hardships you go through when your a teen mom or even a teen whos pregnant its hard I KNOW and i agree that it doesnt help prevent teen pregnancy
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L.B. God bless you and your little son. I was also a teen mother and as you said it's not easy. When you get older is when you truely realize what an enormous responsibility a child is ... when you are young, you can't fully understand that this is a LIFETIME of responsibility. I do however think parents can do more than just talk with their kids... talking is definitely the most important thing, but they can also get their girls on the shot if they suspect she is sexually active.
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I don't think the media helps, that's for sure. I saw a show where a pregnant teen (16) was interviewed w/ her boyfriend. She said if Jamie Lynn Spears cld do it, so cld she. It's sad to say this, but maybe it's best to put these girls on birth control. I don't want to imply that I'm promoting teen sex, but only that something shld be done to prevent pregnancy at such a young age. You can raise your kids with all the love and morals in the world, but in the end, they're going to make their own decisions--some good, others not so good. As parents, we have an obligation to protect our kids and keep them safe. Yet, we have to be realistic. Eventually we have to loosen the cord and hope our kids gained the sense to make responsible decisions for themselves. This is a tough subject. As parents, we have to do the best we can to raise our children to make mature, responsible decisions, and teach them to respect themselves and their bodies. They also need to know about AIDS and other STDs and the risks of pregnancy, as well as the consequences. I think educating our children is important, and taking precautions to keep them safe is necessary.
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According to Sexual Risk, and protective factors, a publication on the National Campaign to Prevent Teenage Pregnancy website, these are important protective factors, but the National Campaign acknowledges that these factors are ones that community organizations can do little about. These are the factors that come up first in a statistical analysis of teenage pregnancy. - - - - - - - Attachment to and involvement with family--bio-parents married, family connectedness, supervision, education and income peers who delay sexual activity faith community that promotes delaying sex until after marriage school -- clubs, athletics, success. - - - - - - - - I would suggest that if you really wish to help your own child avoid teenage pregnancy that you do have some influence on some of these factors. Although you may already be divorced, and have little education and a low income, you can still do things that increase family connectedness. Here are some suggestions. - - - - - - - Look through family photos. With supplies you already have on hand, (markers, paper, glue) begin an effort at scrapbooking. You may not produce an archival quality scrapbook page, but you will produce a feeling of family connectedness. Go for a walk together. Play at the park (softball, basketball, tag, catch). Check out two copies of the same book from the library and read together. Sing together. Go on a sketching expedition. Paper and pencil are the only supplies you need. Write a letter (snail-mail) to a family member who does not live in your household. Play a board game or a card game. Watch a classic TV show together. Go to a community activity together. Take a self-defense class together. go to church together get together with your child's friends and their families -- have a potluck dinner on Sunday, or Wednesday, or whenever. Brain-storm together about other things you can do together. If you increase your time together doing things that are fun and interesting, just by 30 min a day or even just by an hour a week, you will be doing something very profound. Please post your ideas for increasing family connectedness here.
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Wow! What great ideas about family connectedness!!! I did not understand this until I was much older and by that time, I already had two kids. Gail is right, family, education and communication is VERY important to help teens avoid pregnancy. My bf has a teenage daughter and I am surprised at how much she enjoys hanging out with us. She is most often home for dinner and she travels on the weekends with us to the cabin, she hikes with us and even comes along for fishing expeditions. One thing that I think encourages her to hang out with the family is that her boyfriend is allowed to come too. She is never allowed to sleep becide him and he is not allowed in her room, but he is welcome to do anything with the family that she wants him to. I know she is sexually active (18 years old) but she is able to talk with me about birth control. Having such a strong family history and connection is important to her and how she defines herself. Her father and I also tell her that we believe waiting for the man she will marry is best for her. However, reality is that she is not waiting so we must be able to help her protect herself.
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I'm 18 and 6 months pregnant. It wasn't planned and I may not be as ready as I can be but I'm going to make the best out of the situation. My mom gave me sooo many sex talks because she was a teen mom and she understands that sex as a teen is tempting. Accidents happen. I agree with that 100%. We were using protection. But I can honestly confess that it doesn't always work. I have 3 younger brothers and a crap load of little cousins. And I know a thing or two about raising a child. I'm still attending the University of Rio Grande and I am still going to proceed with my plans I had made for myself, I'll just have to make some slight changes. And I know with the help of family and friends I'll be O.K.
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Family support is the key! I am a former teenage mom myself. With the support of my mom, grandmother, and now husband I was still able to graduate high school, attend college and grad school. Now I am married, with a wonderful job, and four children(two of which I had in h.s.). My oldest daughter is graduating h.s. this May. I am telling you this because even though it wasn't easy, it's still possible. I don't claim my children as mistakes but as unexpected blessings. I don't choose the path I took for my children but I will still support their choices no matter what.
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First the references. UNAIDS. 2004 Report on the global AIDS epidemic, page.72 Preferred sources of condoms among young men in Kampal, Uganda. KamyM, Kapiriri L, Kamy S, Biryabarema C, Kajubi P, Hearst N, McFarland W, International Conference on AIDS. Now the analysis. In 1995, sexually experienced teenage men ages 15-17 had a sexual activity rate of 33%. In 1995 the 18 and 19 year-old men who were sexually experienced had a sexual activity rate of 58%. Then the barriers to condom use were lowered. Perhaps co-incidentally, the rates of sexual activity among sexually experienced teenagers rose to 120% or 125% of the pre-intervention levels. The only group that benefited from the lowered barriers was married women and men, who used condoms more, but that may have been because the proportion of married men with MULTIPLE PARTNERS increased among some age groups. Now the conclusion. The pope was not only telling the truth about what he believed, he was right.
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would yuh say its odd if you have never felt yuhr baby move inside of you and when it does yuh can see it but not feel it? is it odd for you to not show at 5 months evern though your only 115 lbs your self? i dont really know whats going with this pregnancis.. dont be mean buht let me know what you think is wrong.
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I have seen the movement of my baby, so that part isn't odd. Not showing at 5 months--if you have a long back, with lots of space between your ribcage and your pelvis, that part isn't too odd, And, well, give it a couple of weeks on feeling the movement. If you are aware that there is some movement, then you know that your baby is OK. I'd say it is odd not to feel the movement, but I don't think it is dangerous. I almost forgot, it is a good idea to talk to your care provider. If you haven't been to the doctor or clinic yet, you really should go!
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well im 15 and i might be pregnant what would i do about that And i don't believe in getting abortions.BUT WHEN WE TOOK A TEST IT WAS NEGATIVE BUT WHEN I WAS AT MY DADS IT WAS POSITIVE..DOES ANYONE HAVE ADVICE???
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Test again, see a doctor. If you aren't pregnant right now, find out about contraception and disease prevention--the simplest (but not the easiest) thing is to quit having sex. Condoms are good if you use one EVERY TIME! I mean EVERY TIME! Other kinds of protection don't protect against disease. If you are pregnant, you still need to protect against disease. Use a condom EVERY TIME! If you know who the dad is, consider including him in your plans. If you are going to need welfare, you'll probably have to name him. If you are going to give the baby up for adoption, he's going to have to agree. Think about how much different you are now from when you were 13. Just three years and you are a completely different person than you were two years ago. You know more, you think about things differently. Imagine how much you are going to change in the next 7 years--that's almost half your lifetime so far. Babies take up your freedom and your energy. You end up really exhausted. That isn't good for you, and it isn't good for the baby. Please consider adoption. You could be a blessing for a family and a blessing for your baby. I know one teenage mom who is making it OK, but her grandparents gave her a big trust fund so she could finish college and graduate school. Sometimes she still complains on facebook about the things she doesn't get to do. It can be hard to give up everything for your kid, at any age. Count the cost. I'm not asking what would be easiest for you. I'm asking you to figure out what would be best for your baby.
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i just dont know if i would be able to carry for so long and then just have to give the baby away for a adoption..but thank you alot for your concerns and opinions.i dont know if they will help.. but im getting big a little.ive told my mom and she thinks it just weight gain.the father just i dont really know he doesnt live close..i think so much about how a bay is really hard work and would take away my freedom but i think its my responsibility for doing it and i should take the consequences and try to do my best for the baby..when i was 13 i was much different i just dont know what has happened to me.i know adoption would be a great choice probably but i dont know it would be so hard..do u have kids??
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I do have kids. My youngest is a 13 year old girl, and I see how she takes great care of her parakeet, and I think she will be a really great mom in another 13 years. You are right when you say adoption would be hard. You also say that you should take the consequences of your own actions. That is true, too. But, should your baby take the consequences of having a mom that is only 15? Having a mom who will probably be poor because finishing high school is very difficult when you have a baby, and getting a good job without finishing high school is not very likely. Adoption is one way of taking the consequences for yourself (missing out on raising the baby after you carry him or her for nine months), and doing your best for the baby by providing parent(s) who are already mature. I'm not saying this is the best choice for you. I am saying that there are different ways at looking at responsibility and consequences. You will probably have to name the father if you apply for welfare benefits. You will definitely have to get his permission if you give the baby up for adoption. If you keep the baby, you have to be willing to work to keep the baby's father in your lives. It is best for the baby to have a real relationship with a father and a mother. In fact, the only way that you wouldn't have to be involved with the baby's father at all is if you aborted the baby. I think that action puts all the consequences on the baby for your choices. It just doesn't seem fair to me. If you are starting to show, it is time to see a doctor. You need good prenatal care, whatever you decide to do. That is the beginning of doing your best for the baby. It would be good for you to contact some people who have experience helping pregnant teenagers. Google social services in your area and call the government office. They can give you a list of agencies that would be good for you to contact. Many churches provide help, too. I can only guess how hard it will be for you for the next few days. You will have to be so grown-up. Telling your mom is another thing that you have to do really soon. If she acts like she's really really mad, it is because she is really really afraid for you.
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Hey My Name is kimberly. I am also a teen mom. I love this comment because it really inspires me i was 13 when i got pregnate and had my daughter at 14. i hated that everyone talked crap about all teens getting pregnate. sometimes its not the girls falt. But thanks For writeing this comment!!
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This is why aliens won't talk to us. Teen pregnancy SUX
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