Hi, I really need help.
I am turning 25 years old on 4 July. I have a 20 months old daughter. I have just entered a new workplace to work (my previous workplace was liquidated), during this new one many trips overboard are expected. I am very sleep-deprived because my daughter wakes up in the middle of the night and only goes back to sleep if i rock her crib.
The dilemma is - should i get pregnant with the second one now?
I think yes, because:
1. The age difference won't be too much (when the new baby is born my DD will be 2.5 years old), and thus they'll play with each other, and DD won't understand enough to get jealous,
I think no, because:
1. I'm still tired and need sleep
2.this job is new and i don't think the director will be happy if i get pregnant at this stage (business trips, etc)
3.DD still wakes up in the middle of the nights and goes back to sleep only when rocked, and she doesn't sleep in a separate room yet
4.I live with my in-laws, and we plan to get separated, and i want my second one be born when i live alone with my husband (the main reason is this, because i don't like my in-laws, and they don't like me, and i'll have pregnancy hormones racing, and my MIL wants to take control over my DD, so when i'll be busy with my second, she'll immediately take control of DD :-()
Please help me to solve this, coz even the reason for YES is only one, it is still very important for me the age difference not be too long...
Looking forward to ANY kind of advice