Anxious - FamilyEducation
08/08/2008 at 14:41 PM

i'm in the middle of a pregnancy scare right now, if you want to call it that. my partner and i have a rather open relationship, so when the topic of pregnancy came up, we decided it was something that needed to be discussed. coincidentally, the condom broke on us that night, and i began ovulating the next day. i know that there are no real signs this soon, but i've had "scares" before, but i have never felt this way and i have NEVER been this calm about it. it's possible that it's all in my head and that i'm just thinking this way because of our conversation, but as corny as this sounds, fate has always had a way of messing with my head like that. of course, to date this would be the best time in my life to have a baby. i guess what i'm looking for is another perspective and maybe some experienced and/or educated advice?? Also-if anyone has any good pointers on how to pass the time in my mind between now and my period that would be great as well.

Try not to worry, even though that's easier said than done sometimes. It's good that you have open communication w/ your partner. Does he seem supportive in helping you? Or is there a friend or someone close to you that you can confide in? I think talking about your concern is helpful. Also, try to pass the time w/ hobbies you enjoy doing and can stay focused on. Sports, exercise, reading, shopping, whatever. I wldn't worry right now about what you're going to do if you're pregnant. Yes, it's possible, but there's also a good chance you're not pregnant. There's no sense getting all worked up about this, if you don't know what the outcome will be. I wld focus on how you can better protect yourself in the future, so you have no further unexpected oopses. Continue to use condoms, but maybe consider another method of birth control as well. This wld help to better put your mind at ease. If you tend to be a typically anxious person, be a lot more cautious in your decisions and take less risks. I'm not saying you shld limit yourself, but just be more careful in what you do and how you do it. It sounds, though, like you may want to have a baby at some pt in the near future. That's something you'd have to discuss w/ your partner and consider seriously before you make that decision. Having a baby is a huge responsibility and changes everything. It becomes all about the baby and not about you anymore. There's a lot to consider. If, you find out you're pregnant, make sure you and your partner are prepared to take on a baby at this time in your lives. If, on the other hand, you're not pregnant, use this as a learning experience. Keep us posted on the outcome. PS--If you miss your period, wait about a wk. Then take a home pregnancy test. EPT is almost 100% accurate.

There are pregnancy test kits here in Britain which can be used before you have missed a period, about a week before I think. You should probably be able to get them over there. I believe they are pretty accurate. I would consider seriously all that concerned has said. I am with her 100% on what she has to say.