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Urgent Question, Please Help
05/14/2011 at 06:39 AM

Hello everyone, I have an urgent question, and would greatly appreciate an answer.
I am the mother of a wonderful, sensitive seven-year-old boy, who is about to go into second grade. The school he attends has a great tradition, where a couple of times a year, all the parents get together and put on a parents-only play for the kids to watch and enjoy. As you can imagine they are very light hearted, and are mostly just excuses for the parents to show off, and act goofy. Needles to say all the kids, including my son, greatly look forward to these shows. However my concern is towards something that happens on stage.
The character I was chosen to play is a typical damsel in distress. Within the first several minutes of the play, I come onstage, and run into a character called Rob (played by a father of a student). He comments on how nice he thinks my shoes are, and says that in fact his daughter wants a pair exactly like them. He then proceeds to ask me to give him the shoes as a gift. After a couple minutes of funny banter, I refuse to surrender the shoes. His character then delivers a very comical fake punch, which knocks me out. I fall forward and he catches me then picks me up and carries me and lays me down in a corner at the front of the stage. He then removes my shoes and runs away with them, and the play continues, now with the added set piece of me lying unconscious (and barefoot) on stage, where I am to remain for the rest of the show.
Now this is all obviously, very cheesy, and in good humor. But frankly I don’t know if this is something that my son would enjoy watching. Seeing his mom knocked unconscious and carried by strange man, who then leaves her lying shoeless and out cold, even in a pretend way, seems like a bit harsh of an image. For me, even picturing my mom feigning unconsciousness, is uncomfortable. Also, at the end of the play, when all the parents come up to bow, to keep the joke going Rob is supposed to carry me, still passed out, while everyone bows. I don’t think all this warrants dropping out of the show, as that will probably upset my son even more, but I am really in need of some advice on what, if anything I should do. Again, I will greatly appreciate some opinions, thank you.

Just share the script with your boy. And play some pretend with him, or find a friend his age with a good imagination for him to play with. He could even help you rehearse!

I am still close friends with a lady I dated back in Jr. High. She is now divorced and has custody of her 5 year old daughter. The father chooses not to be in the picture. This 5 year old, I’ll call her “Katie”, seems to me to live a sheltered life under the watchful eye of a well-meaning, but over-protective mother. Little Katie loves to come hang out with my family on the weekends and sleep over with us. On one occasion we were going to make a trek to a large fishing and hunting store. This store has a huge area displaying trophy animals from all over the world. When I told the mother that we were planning to go there she asked that we not take Katie. She said that Katie would be so sad about the dead animals and she did not want her to have to be exposed to such a “gruesome” display.

Now, knowing the mother as long as I have, I know she does not like hunting. We dated at a time in my life when my father and I spent a great deal of time hunting and fishing. The worry that the mother had for her daughter was actually her own worries, and not shared by her daughter. After some talking she agreed to allow us to take Katie, and I agreed that if she showed any signs of being uncomfortable, we would leave immediately. When we walked in the store Katie asked if all the animals were dead, I said yes they were, and that was the end of it. We walked around and looked at all the animals. Katie and my boy’s played a shooting gallery game and had a great time, the mother was shocked. Kids are more resilient and adaptable than we give them credit for. I would explain to your son once what the play was about, and what part you play in it, and I would leave it alone. Let him deal with uncomfortable situations, he will begin to grow from them.