Single Mom...Struggling ......moving away from my sons father......
01/01/2012 at 13:34 PM

I need some advice......

I am a 42 year old single mom....i.have a 12 year old son.....I have been divorced since he was about 3.....his Dad lives close by and is a great Dad...spends a lot of quality time with him.....We have a great relationship coparenting....and sharing time with my son.....

My life is different from his Dads....who has a lot more money than I and live at the beach, so it is always a fun time there....I live in a small condo and struggle to make ends meet every month.....

This past year I met a man and fell in love....he is terrific with my son and they love eachother and get along very well. He has been transferred across country with his job, a huge financial opportunity that is not available where we live.....He wants us to move with him.....this will finally give me the opportunity for a new start and I would like to go back to school so that I don't ever have to struggle like I have in the past years......

I want my son to move with me...this would change the time he sees his Dad to vacations, long weekends an summer break......we are willing to send him back anytime there is time.....

His Dad actually agreed, but my son is not wanting to move away.....He is a great kid with a great personality and meets people so easily....I think once he got to Texas he would love it and be ok....I feel so selfish wanting to go and make things better for me for once....which will in turn make things better for him.......I am so torn.....I don't want my son to hate me for making him move with me.....but I do want to go......ultimately for both my boyfriend and I ...this is about my son.....we have talked about just breaking off the whole relationship but are truley in love and see and want a future together.....He wants to be able to provide a better life for us that finacially he can't do where we live now...........Do I give it all up .......am I a horrible mother for wanting more for me???

It could be that she gets cold in the night. I know, seems too simple, but try putting a space heater in the room.

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